Wishing someone a Merry Christmas but you know their religion does not celebrate it.

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  1. saintie1

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    I can't be the only one here, but I get various emails from various folk from differing religions wishing me a Merry Christmas. I know they do not celebrate it so how do I reply with something thoughtful?
     
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    Merry Christmas
     
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    That’s actually a very good question and one that I’ve pondered myself. A neighbour of mine doesn’t celebrate Christmas but none the less bought us a very thoughtful gift, would/should we reciprocate on Eid?
     
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    Seasons greetings
     
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    IMO
    Regardless of differing religions and beliefs, we have a period of time called Christmas. We can view that as either a religious reference or simply as a name (like Autumn is). I see nothing whatsoever wrong with wishing someone a Merry Christmas irrespective of their beliefs. And, in fact, I suspect the majority of those to whom you refer would not be offended either.
     
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    When in Rome as they say....

    Putting aside ANY religious views, and let's be honest, Christmas for most normal/typical people in the UK has very little to do with actual religious beliefs.

    Which is a sad point which may be lost on others from other places who view things in stronger ways.

    It's more a End of year, Gift giving, Be nice, Give gifts, Eat/Drink/Celebrate the end of another year, perhaps with family event.

    Sod all to do with faith/religion for most.

    So yes, forget that side of it, wish people well, and just enjoy the time of year, be nice to people etc.
     
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    We’re in the UK. We celebrate Christmas. If someone wishes you merry Christmas, wish them merry Christmas back.

    Problem = solved
     
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    I’ve several Thai friends. Buddhists. A few of them sent me Merry Christmas messages earlier. I sent the same back with a smile hug as they had to work today :D
     
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    That’s the way to do it!

    Christmas to me has never been about religion as I’m not religious. Christmas is just this time of year.
     
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    Happy Christmas is ( for us ) a universal sign of goodwill at this time . Happy hoidays also works if one wants to be tactfully of another's beliefs . We often dispense with Happy Christma and just go with " seasons greetings with love " if any cause offence then it saves a response the following year .
     
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    Some Christians don't celebrate Christmas, Jehovah's Witnesses for instance, which is more difficult to deal with than non-Christians who are usually polite enough to make the appropriate noises.
    The Christians on the other hand give the impression of objecting to the festivities even if they don't say so.
     
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    My Muslim mates always say or txt me merry Christmas, I just say cheers, enjoy the holiday etc
     
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    Totally agree, I'm not religious(probably just on the agnostic side of atheist) but appreciate the holiday and family time and the make believe of Santa Claus and giving/receiving presents. I respect the right of Christians to celebrate the religious aspect of Christmas and believe that members of other religions would and should respect that too, you don't have to believe to respect others people's right to believe.
     
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    It's so often the case that objections to such terms are objections by proxy. It is those who have no reason to be offended who object on behalf of those who they think have reason, because they somehow think that those who have reason ought to be offended. In fact, they aren't offended because, at the very least, they are far more pragmatic than their proxies are.

    And therein lies the root cause of just about every example of political correctness.
     
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    "Thank you. Are you having any time off work?"

    If no: "Oh dear".
    If yes: "Enjoy your break!"
     
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    That would be a nice response, respecting each other's cultures.
     
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    Which is the greatest prejudice of all?
     
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    Just tell them that unless they reject their religion and become born again they will roast in the fire pit of hell for ever!
     
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    I would use Google Translate and say it to them in an obscure language. "Vesel Božič" :smashin:
     
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    Yes, and if you can get in on all the parties all the better.

    :)
     
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    Even the ones that don't allow alcohol?
     
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    I bet that pretty much applies to everyone. How can they also know whether or not you belong to any specific faith?

    I'm an atheist who celebrates Christmas. I don't see any problem with that, nor anyone of any faith celebrating it. I'm certain most British Asian Hindu families have got their Christmas decorations up.
     
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    Some people seem determined to get upset about Christmas.
    To them I say bah humbug!
     
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    Never sneaked alcohol into a concert then?

    ;)
     
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    All the Muslims I know drink alcohol or have done. Life lasts a long time. Most people want to experience different things (incest and Morris dancing excepted obviously). Anyway Christmas is a time for fun with family, the same as Eid etc. If anyone takes offence at people celebrating with their family no matter what you call the celebration, they are irrelevant. That’s the way I see it.
     
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    Last year I got the job of arrange the works Xmas do

    I work for large company and was arranging a do for our team of 12 people.

    Typical event which was business related activity during the day followed by night out.

    My first draft of the PowerPoint to kick start the business related day said something like “welcome merry Christmas etc”

    A few revisions later it dawned on me Christmas could might not be the right word given the fact that not everyone in the team celebrated Christmas in the traditional sense. So I dropped Xmas from the title in favour of seasons greetings.

    To my great surprise, on the day, those in the team who do celebrate in the traditional way we’re quite critical of my choice of words and rather aggressive with reference to why the word Xmas or Christmas had not been used. So, I explained my dilemma (similar to the op question)

    Of course, which did not surprise me, those in the team who did not celebrate in the traditional sense assured me they would have had no issue what so ever with me using the word Christmas and suggested that I should have used it in the first place

    Not sure that’s helps the op or not
     
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    I don't like the term Xmas.
     
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    My God man what makes you think that non-Christians would be offended by the use of the word Christmas? Christmas is as much a cultural thing these days as its a religious event and if anyone living in the UK does takes offence with Christmas then tuff. This is your heritage and those that you thought might take offence didn't, as you or I would not take offence at Eid or Hanukkah if we lived in an islamic country or in Israel. This sort of PC nonsense winds me up no end!
     
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    And, as I found out you are quite correct
     
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    Never been offended by anyone wishing me a merry Christmas. In fact I often worry about saying merry Christmas to anyone full stop just don't know who does/doesn't celebrate it or who will take offence at it!! As others have mentioned already it's not so much about the religious aspect anymore, it's a nice few days off at the end of the year that you can get to spend with loved ones, plus everyone's extra nice around this time :). I love it personally religion or no religion it's a lovely time of year full stop!
     

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