Why do people get so offended

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  1. walters123

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    I don't think m(any) people are actually offended - it's just advertising - either for the products themselves, or the cause/issue/narrow-minded sect that is "outraged".
    Also, anything to fill newspaper columns. After all, as the saying goes, any publicity is good publicity!
     
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    Should we also rename the word nuts too then? Yep, the world is a mad place.. oh I probably shouldn't even say that should I?

    If I'm offended by people getting offended over silly things, surely I have as much right to ask not to be offended by the offendees complaints?
     
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    The gender neutral school shoes are actually a good idea.
     
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    I hardly get offended by anyone or anything, live and let live I say. But I also think gender neutrality is something worth championing too.

    In my opinion, gender is a social construct that puts people into boxes and says 'you are not allowed to do XYZ as it's wrong/not natural'. Don't agree! Do whatever the hell you like as long as you're respectful towards others.

    Also, it creates limits and expectations about human behaviour and there's nothing men and women can't do equally well.
     
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    The schools should insist on a gender neutral end of year prom - watch the majority of the girls complain then :)

    And looking forward to gender neutral Wimbledon next year.

    Cheers,

    Nigel
     
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    Parking? Man flu? Tech? Soft furnishings?
     
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    Yep indeed. Does drive us mad that for example boys school shoes are generally closed, while girls' ones have big openings at the top. The consequence being that when walking to school (which everyone is supposed to do, right?) on a rainy day, girls end up with much wetter feet than boys because 'gender reasons'.
     
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    Jesus christ, let me guess whats coming next, gender neutral underwear. This gender crap is getting way out of hand.

    They are shoes for going to school why make such a big deal out of it, wait til they grow up they will have plenty of time for shoes then.

    Why complain about a shop not having as good of a selection of shoes instead of the prices schools are demanding for suitable uniforms. My sister had to shell out ~£50 for a ******* skirt for gods sake because it had to be a specific type.

    People should be kicking up a stink about stores not selling shoes or trainers that are wide enough, not everyone has 3 inch width feet.
     
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    For general wear (ie school), there should be kids shoes. When they are a bit older, perhaps different styles / shapes / designs will be more important to them.
     
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    Yes exactly - why should girls shoes be less good at being shoes just because girls oh they have to have flimsy cute shoes don't they?

    It's the same with tops - virtually all boys tops cover the shoulders, while many girls ones just have a couple of flimsy bits of string to hold them up. For parents who just can't get enough of applying suncream I guess.
     
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    Gender neutral contraceptives? o_O
     
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    A gay friend often told me this when I was drunk at the pub, I just took his word for it :D
     
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    I think the answer is... technology.
    Now don't get me wrong, I love a good bit of tech to help me do my job or increase enjoyment watching a film etc.
    But 20 years ago if something annoyed you, however rational or irrational, you wrote a letter to the local paper. A paper that runs a story one week, the letter arrives, then it gets published the next week, then a follow up or reply the next week.
    If it was something that really irked you, then you went to the top. Write a letter to Ester Ranzen and you get prime spot on Sunday night to tell the world what offended you.

    These days, everyone has access to the entire world in the palm of their hand. So what do they do? Use it to vent. Unfortunately there are people who just like to hear their own voice. Attention whores. These people probably don't care about the name of a sweet, or the style of a shoe, or a photoshopped yogurt pot etc. But because they CAN tell their friends and hundreds of other people, then they DO. That I think is the real difference from 20 years ago to now.
    I think we don't need to teach our kids about being gender neutral (bollocks in my book) we just need to teach out kids when to shut the fudge up.
     
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    case in point:

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    45,786 vents and counting :laugh:
     
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    Absurd.

    Just buy boys shoes or tops then!
     
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    This is basically what we end up doing.

    Reminds me of when I got an earful from a little old lady in Waitrose who said 'what a cute baby boy' about one of our new-born girls - when I just casually corrected her she snapped "YOU SHOULDN'T DRESS A GIRL IN BLUE!" :rolleyes:
     
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    Only the last few years? I'd say it's been on a slippery slope since the nineties.
     
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    What todays society has come to accept as 'the norm', is a lot harder for the older generation to accept, they grew up old school, men went out and worked, women stayed at home. Boys were boys and girls were girls.

    Can't teach an old dog new tricks.

    This is obviously a generalisation, but I think holds true in a lot of cases.
     
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    It's just the usual ctrl_left PC obsessed mob who need something to protest about.
     
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    The same people complain about these things that voted Brexit. See the headline and jump on the bandwagon without thinking about the implications. When I was at school, girls would do anything they could to their clothes to show more flesh and make them look more feminine.

    And actually old people whinge all the time - mainly due to daytime tv presenters spouting their distorted views and whipping them up. Press them and they have no clue of the issues involved either.
     
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    I don't think you'll find it's the older generation in favour of "gender neutral" toilets, or who get offended by sweets being called "nutters".

    These are very much traits of the safe space snowflake generation. Who voted remain.If they could be bothered to vote.
     
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    And then they moaned about how 'it's all the old people's fault'. Always looking for someone to blame.
     
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    The modern world has turned people (or at least is trying very hard) into candy ass, pussy whipped versions of what they used to be who act like petulant kids waving their hands and yelling to get the attention of the teacher over any supposed fault whilst simultaneously expecting their foibles and mistakes to go unnoticed.

    The internet amplifies this to the millionth degree where faux outrage for likes rules the day. Here's hoping an asteroid wipes out the planet, eh?
     
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    Conversely, the older generation will now try their very best to deflect any negative effect that Brexit has caused as being related to something else.

    Similarly the positive post brexit spin is well underway. An article today declared we were ahead of the EU in terms of unemployment. When in reality we are better than the EU average, which includes struggling countries like Spain and Greece, and our employment figure includes those on zero hour contracts which the UK makes more use of, and they are downright banned in some countries.

    But that's politics. Parties will slag of each other about the negative and will brag about the success they think they bring.

    (But if Brexit has an overall negative effect, and it can be empirically shown that older generations voted for it in a large proportion, then yes, it is their fault! Similarly, if it's a glorious success it's because of that generation.)
     
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    The generation that were told there are no winners or losers. Never told no, never disciplined, were allowed to do what they wanted when they wanted. Had no respect for anyone or anything, have now become adults.
    Now if they don't agree with someone or something doesn't go their way they act like spoilt children and have temper tantrums.
    They are offended by everyone and everything, and if you don't agree with them you are a Nazi, a racist or their new favourite saying a white supremacist :rolleyes:
    In other words generation snowflake.
     
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    Completely agree.

    Can we hang on for another thirty years please.
     
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    I'm offended at the thought you think people are easily offended.
     
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    I blame the internet. It gives people an opportunity to vent their opinions who shouldn't really have such an opportunity at all. It encourages people to share the minutest details from their lives. It's far too easy to pick up your phone and type out a rant on Facebook.

    As someone who suffers from mental health issues, I'm not too concerned about sweets called "Nutters". I don't eat sweets anyway, and don't shop at Poundland.

    I don't think that gender-neutral shoes are necessarily a bad idea. Why force children to conform to out-moded and unrealistic gender stereotypes? If a boy wants to wear a pink T-shirt for example, then so what?
     

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