I've reached that stage in my life, married with a house, where I'm finding myself under serious pressure to start reproducing. It's amazing how these things just creep up on you. Anyway I'm really struggling to understand the reasons why people do this. I should warn you that I have a habit of over anaylsing things and I spend a lot of time thinking hard about stuff, sometimes in weird ways. What it seems to boil down to is - 'I want one because I want one'. There's not really any logic to it is there? It seems a bit selfish to me. Once you've got one in your hands then no doubt you devote yourself completely to their well being, you feed and water them and you make sure you don't lose them anywhere. What I'm struggling with is the actual decision of choosing to have that first child. The moment when you say 'yeah lets have one'. Why? The child doesn't get a say in the matter which I think is the main issue I'm having. I feel like I want to sit down with the preconcieved life form and have a chat with them to check if they really want to be created. First I'd explain exactly who I am to see if they want me as their dad, then I'd do the same for my wife, then I'd give a quick overview of the world and explain that this is where they'll be spending their time. Ideally I'd get 3 thumbs up, if I only got 2 thumbs up then perhaps it could go into some sort of negotiation stage whereby myself and my wifes needs are also taken into consideration. I'm trying to think of the reasons why people choose to start making babies. Women have this weird uncontrollable need to nurture which is programmed into them, they want one because they want one, it's a mystery to me. Maybe they are just lonely and they want a friend to play with. Men, I don't really know which is the main reason why I'm posting here. I am a man and all I can come up with at the moment are 2 reasons why a man would want children, 1/ you want your wife to be happy, 2/ you're building a kingdom and you need some kids to rule over and worship you. The first reason is what I'm staring at right now. The 2nd reason isn't me at all as I usually just like to be left alone. I need to know if they're are any other reasons that I've overlooked here? Also, as a side note... what the hell am I going to do with a kid!!? Is there any way of preventing them from growing up and becoming like me?