What a long but satisfying result - meet my new boy

SamF

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Hey guys, how you all doing?


Well, what a horrendous few days it has been.
Went in to be induced on Sunday morning at 10:30 and the rest is long winded so Ill summarise it:
Sunday 10:30 - pessery 1cm dialated
Monday 10:30 - nothing happening another pessery 2/3cm dialated
Monday 19:40 - water broke 4/5cm dialated
Monday 22:36 - moved to labour ward 5cm dialated and this is when it started to go a little wrong.
Tuesday 02:something stupid - missus having really big contractions but not dialating, still at 5cm (for those who dont know it needs to 10cm to actively start trying to deliver the baby).
Tuesday 03:something - missus had an epidural because they needed to give her Syntocinon which doubles the contractions to force the cervix to dialate. given in increasing doses on an auto dose machine thingy. 0.6ml/h 1.2ml/h 2.4ml/h 3.6ml/h
Tuesday 05:30ish - babys heart rate is doing some funny things due to the Synto drug. This causes really strong contractions and if the cord gets squished between the baby and a hard bit or the baby is in a funny position it aint good. they stop the drug. Heart rate dropped a few times. They stop the drug to give Tamsin a rest.
Tuesday 07:20 - start ramping up the drug again as the cervix is still at 5cm and push it through a bit quicker
Tuesday 09:30 - all hell breaks loose, the big red button pushed and the room fills with every midwife and nurse from the ward in seconds, babies heart rate dropped suddenly and everyone had a bit of a panic. Syntol stopped and IV drip forced through to counter the drug and stop the contractions.

At this point I've had about 25 minutes sleep on the floor of the delivery room since early Monday and seeing the missus like this is quite distressing.

We had a frank conversation with the boss midwife who suggested the options, we can opt for a c-section and everything is nice and relaxed and calm, or, we try this again for another 4 hours baby flaps again, everything gets crazy, they rush her down for a c-sect and there is no calm about it.
I said to the missus enough was enough, I'm so proud she made it this far and maybe we should, for her safety and baby's safety, go for the c-sect.

Tuesday 10:15 - they gave me my smurf suit, hat and gummie shoes and trundle down to the theatre everyone was really great the anaesthetist was an absolute legend, really made my wife happy and relaxed.
I was there for the whole event and our beautiful baby boy was delivered at 10:25 on Tuesday weighing in at 7.3lbs.

First few minutes in this world:
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My beautiful, brave, tired but extremely happy wife:
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My morning wake up call today:
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My boy - superman...
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We were all home and happy, the wife is sore but smiling and Thomas Jack Langston Foord is an absolute superstar!!!
Thank you all for the good wishes and support
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Yeah, this wasn't really a summary is it
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awww congrats.

Whats the story behind Langston? unusual name.
 
I know you only asked about Langston, but your going to get the full tour :D

So, Thomas and Jack are my wife's and my granddads names respectively.
Langston is my wifes maiden name which we are using as a middle. My FIL had all girls and we though it nice to continue the name in this fashion.

I also quite like the name Langston Foord (as in Langston as a first name), it has a posh-ness about it that you'd expect from some uber posh, high flying legal bod earning the big bucks and keeping his parents in the well established life they deserve.... ;)
 
Congrats mate, sounds like you had a similar experience to us, my wife had a failed induction when she went in. Contractions for over a day with no dilation happening, she ended up on every drug going, Shaun Ryder would have been proud! :D

Eventually ended in an emergency C section, little un had a cardiac arrest and rushed to neonatal, that night I saw her and she was barely moving in an incubator. By the next morning she was out of the incubator and you would have thought the previous day hadn't happened. Now she's nearly four and one of strongest kids you will meet, never fusses when she hurts herself and is barely ever ill, funny how things work out like that!
 
Thomas is so chilled, nothing seems to bother him which is great. Hope this keeps up as both of us dont yet feel overwhelmed or out of depth.

Its a strange concept/feeling - parenthood, knowing you are responsible for a life and what you do will shape his world to come. Nice but scary :D
 
Yeah its an amazing feeling and one you can't really prepare for, you know its going to be tough but I don't think you can really prepare for the love and devotion to that little baby that you feel when you meet them for the first time. Completely overwhelming but also incredibly rewarding.

Ours has her moments when she will drive me utterly nuts but its true when they say it only takes a single instance to forget it all and realise how amazing they are. Take this morning for instance, she woke early, I was shattered and went into her room expecting to be getting her up and dressed at silly o'clock.

Turns out she just wanted a hug and went back to sleep :D
 
Congrats. He is a real cutie! Enjoy these first few weeks. You'll have your work cut out for you looking after the little'un and helping your wife recover from the c-sect. Good luck, and make sure you rest when you can.
 
So so chuffed for you :)

And believe it or not.....it's Sinead's birthday today too :D
 
Congrats to all of you! Hope you've had all the sleep you require for the next few years :)
 
Sounds like hell mate, not the way you want it to go. Surprised they didn't suggest C section even earlier to be honest. Cute little boy though.
 
He's lovely mate, congratulations to you both. Welcome to the club!
 
Great News Sam, send my best wishes to Tamsin and Thomas!!
 
Welcome to the world little Leo ! *RAWR* Excellent birth date ;)

Sounds so traumatic! ... I'm not too sad that I'm skipping this part! Congrats to you and your family :)
 
Yep, 4 days in - it is hard. Poor little man hasnt pooped since yesterday morning and has been up all night - Kaboom..... he can poop now and dont we know it :zonked:
 
Ha ha ha this is where the baby onesie's that open at the side come in handy....
 
Starting to get a little tough now. Seems to be a routine nightly of crying, feeding, changing but then he'll get him self in a flap and cry hysterically for no apparent reason and nothing we do help. Midwife was less than useless, she came the day after we got home and the first thing she did was give my wife an ear bashing because she got up when some guests left and she went to the loo, then proceeded to tell up she's on a long day and going for lunch as soon as she's done with us. Because we are both new to this and a little unsteady, she offered to give a 24hr later phone call the next day to make sure everything was ok, that didn't happen and still haven't heard from anyone. She gave us a number for a 24hr breast feeding support group as we mentioned we were having trouble getting little man to latch and stay latched. Phoned them late on Friday, turns out it isn't 24hr, just the answerphone is....... They did however call back the next day but as it is run by volunteer mums, and as it was the weekend they didn't know when they could get anyone out to help....

Not sure if he is slightly colic-y as he does look in pain when he has a melt down, or is that just because he is having a meltdown. We have bottles of that first born milk stuff but wife doesn't want to try to see if he's better on that instead of breast. I think it may be partly to do with the whole wanting a natural pregnancy - fertility, wanting a natural birth - emergency c section, now wanting to breast feed and is putting a lot of pressure on herself to make this work.

I'm venting and deep down know everything will be fine eventually, it's just nice to rant [emoji173]️
 
As you know our experience with the birth was very similar to yours and the feeding sounds the same as well.

Obviously the experts should know better than a load of AV enthusiasts on these matters and clearly you should seek professional advise, but my guess based purely on what you have told us (problems breast feeding and latching on, plus crying through the night) I would say he's hungry!

Midwifes will always (sometimes to the point of being rude) insist that breast is best and mothers tend to feel a failure it they can't do it, but it's not the end of the world. My wife tried with both our kids, got really upset that she couldn't, but just wasn't producing enough milk. With breast feeding you have no idea how much the baby is getting. A half way solution you might want to try is expressing. You can then also help with the feeds, which will give you some bonding time with the little one and also take some of the pressure off your wife. You can then also see how much he's getting.

Our first also had reflux and would chuck up most of what we gave him (which was specialised proscription formula) minutes after finishing it which was a whole other level of stress!

Support your wife if she really wants to preserve with breast feeding, but start to talk about other options and try expressing or formula, just to see.

Good luck.
 
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And above all, if you need a rant or to just vent, do come on here. Most of us have been just where you are at some point :)
 
All better now [emoji7] until tonight anyway...
Trying a different position for feed which he seems to be enjoying a bit more, nappys are regular now which is a big improvement and the wife milk is finally coming through so all in all, we know things are headed in the right direction.

Another cop out visit from the midwife who turned up and said 'sorry can't stop, got a home birth I need to go to', so we have been home now since wed and haven't been seen properly by anyone. Luckily we do have a bit of common sense and if anything was really off we would have called someone else - but as we are new to this p, it is quite disconcerting when the people you are told turn turn to, are actually not there or available.

Oh well, hopefully tomorrow, and he can be weighed and all the other tests and things they do can be done.

Thanks to you both for the replies - and yes, for a bunch of AV enthusiasts this place is great for more than just talking techie [emoji106][emoji106]
 
Congratulations, hope things settle down.
Oh, and can you try and make his first word "AVF"?
 

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