To sell or not to sell - that is my question!

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Well let me update you first!

I've moved over from South Yorkshire to Wales with my job. It isn't working out and I want to move back. I've got a job lined up but it requires me to have passed my driving test. -I'm taking driving lessons already.

I'm engaged, soon to be married and currently slightly neglect my fiancé due to the time spent on the xbox 360 in our computer/spare room. This doesn't bother her too much as this give her full reign of the 42" plasma and our huge catalogue of dvds and tv shows, music etc. Still make her cups of tea though.

I want to sell my xbox as I'm obsessed with it - 3-4 hours weekday, 8-9 hours each weekend day but I love it too much and I've got 10 months left on my live sub. I don't want to sell it as it's my only form of socialising.

Help me as I want to sell it but I can't!!!!!!!- Should I sell it is the question?
 
Not sure I'm good at relationship advice! :)

Without knowing your fiancee, that sounds like quite a lot of XBox time and would annoy her eventually.

Any way you could just play a bit less?
 
Just cut your play time down. You'll miss it if you get rid of it completely.
 
Sounds like you have answered your own question - you are spending excessive time on the xbox and neglecting your fiancee. Perhaps rather than selling it you should just cut down the amount of time you spend to 1/2 days per week and some of the weekend. Everything in moderation!

There are times when I have arguments with my girlfriend due to the xbox. It's a great way to unwind after work but she doesn't see it that way :thumbsdow
 
Warning - Cold Turkey is dangerous!

You may become very irritable and fidgety if you stop completely.

Just be disciplined and play a couple of hours a week.
 
Hmmmm its a tough one.

I wouldnt sell it, I am married with a little girl and I now mainly play at weekends (saturda night as I work nights) although I sometimes get a few hours in during the week - if Im lucky!

You just need to limit your playing time during the week, maybe leave it tuesday and thursday, then just sit with the missus and have a 'cuddle' or something. That way you are making the effort to spend time with her and she wont think you are neglecting her ;)

Then again if she really doesnt mind you spending sooo much time on it then whats the problem?

Some choices for you but I certainly would'nt sell it!! :lesson: :D
 
Yeah, it does sound like I've answered my own question, its gotta go! I'm one of these all or nothing weirdo types. If I play a game I have to be good at it, otherwise theres no point.

I've tried cutting down and when it's time to stop playing I'm conveniently in the middle of a level or in the middle of a team deathmatch.
 
Yeah, it does sound like I've answered my own question, its gotta go! I'm one of these all or nothing weirdo types. If I play a game I have to be good at it, otherwise theres no point.

I've tried cutting down and when it's time to stop playing I'm conveniently in the middle of a level or in the middle of a team deathmatch.

I think you might regret that in the long run, but thats just my opinion. If you really enjoy it that much you may find yourself getting annoyed at the fact its not there anymore, which in turn could lead to arguments with your fiancee and thats a bad thing.

In turn you may also find yourself taking up another hobby which involves you not being at home and then you would really be for the high jump! At least you are at home now and your fiancee can see you when she needs to.

I am only telling you based on some of my own experiences as I used to game all the time before I met my missus and got married etc.

Just think it all through before you make any drastic descisions :smashin:
 
Can't imagine getting rid of your xbox now as so many great games are coming out. Granted thats probably not going to help your situation and I completely understand the 'all or nothing' attitude.

What about either

a. Asking your girlfriend to tell you when to stop.

b. Putting a 'plug timer' onto the xbox so power shuts down at some predefined time? Might not be good for the xbox, but at least would prevent the 'in the middle of a level' issue as long as you can deal with the frustration ;)

c. Find something that you and your girlfriend can do together, going out, watching a new dvd, something that doesn't give you a chance to start on the xbox some days.

d. Box up the xbox and give it to your girlfriend, for her to hide somewhere in the house or at a relatives. That way you're without the xbox, but you've not sold it, so can get it back at a later date.

As others have said, I think you'll regret selling and what with recent price drops is it even worth selling?
 
Dump the fiancee then you have all the time in the world to play games :thumbsup:

Oops - sorry, just noticed that wasn't an option :D

Like most people say, just cut down. But take whole nights off rather than saying "1 hr per night" because that 1 hr will just turn into 4.

There should be a support group for XBL addicts.
 
You won't get much for it now following the price drop. Tell her if you get rid of the X Box then you'll have to take up another vice - that should keep her off your back!!
 
Yeap, Don't sell!

I've had many an argument over the xbox time. I see it as well at least I'm here, i could be down the boozer socialising.

So, argument ensues, kisses cuddles and promises to play less and spend more time with her... which I do, for about a week - maybe two before slipping into my every night gaming routine again.

So, over the alst few weeks I've joined love film. No, not the gaming package, that would be silly.

Now I make an effort to sit and watch a film at least 2 nights a week and one on a weekend. She thinks I'm a new man. It suits us both, we sit at around 8pm, watch the flick till about 10, she's fallen asleep during the boring mid section of the film, I watch till the end, then kill some baddies on COD. w00t! :clap:
 
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Lol, some quite amusing comments here.

Have to agree with them all though, dont sell it! You'll regret it and end up buying another 2-3 months down the line. Just cut back a lil bit, have 2-3hr sessions 1-2 nights a week and a few hours over the weekend. But make time for the other half.

Ive had the arguments, "All you're worried about is Xbox, what about us?" comments. Cut back, spend some quality time watching movies or a TV series you both like and reap the rewards :D
 
I use to play alot during we week and most of the weekend but when i moved in with my girlfriend i know get about 3 hours on a sunday if im lucky. Its good to have it but i changed to keep the mrs happy. The way i see it. I would be more gutting to lose the mrs than lose xbox time IMO.
 
To be honest mate even if you weren't in a relationship that is an excessive amount of time to be playing games :eek:

Get a grip of yourself :D
 
Maybe if you cut your 360 time down you can have both. :)
 
More advice can be found in my best selling book:

Relationships: Xbox or Sexpot?

Available from all good car boot sales :D
 
Get rid mate, then you can enjoy:
Britains next top model
Americas next top model
X factor
Corrie
Eastenders
Emmerdale
All those girlie DVDs

As for the wanting to be the best or theres no point...there is NO point...its a game.
 
Orrrr... you could buy a copy of Lego Star Wars and play with her - the Mrs I mean, not the Xbox, unless you refer to the Xbox as a her.. which would just be weird.

In any case, you get to play with both of them if you get a copy of Lego Star Wars. :D
 
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Get rid mate, then you can enjoy:
Britains next top model
Americas next top model
X factor
Corrie
Eastenders
Emmerdale
All those girlie DVDs

As for the wanting to be the best or theres no point...there is NO point...its a game.

Oh oh oh I love Eastenders in Full HD glory... yay for BBC HD

Roll on ITV HD
 
maybe the reason you are playing so much is that you are away from your friends and family, i think once you get back home to beautiful South Yorkshire ( not Barnsley :D) you may find that you will play less as there are others things to do, socialising with friends and family etc.

My advice is only play on alternate nights and only sunday daytime untill you are back in Yorkshire.

try bringing it down slowly as you dont want to have a relapse.

any problems you can me on 0800 12345678 ask for The SadMaritans:D
 
Orrrr... you could buy a copy of Lego Star Wars and play with her - the Mrs I mean, not the Xbox, unless you refer to the Xbox as a her.. which would just be weird.

In any case, you get to play with both of them if you get a copy of Lego Star Wars. :D

Any of the Lego games she'l enjoy. My Missus does anyway and its a way to A: Have time on the Xbox
B: Spend time with the missus

Oh and give Scene It a go aswell :thumbsup:
 
...slightly neglect my fiancé due to the time spent on the xbox 360 in our computer/spare room. This doesn't bother her too much as this give her full reign of the 42" plasma and our huge catalogue of dvds and tv shows, music etc. Still make her cups of tea though.

Wait a minute, if it doesn't bother her too much then don't tell us your having voluntary feelings of guilt?

Let me tell ya, once married there'll be plenty of wife-induced guilt trips so why even think of depriving yourself of something you enjoy so much?

Plus the above arrangement is most people's idea of marital bliss anyway so get with the program ;)
 
maybe the reason you are playing so much is that you are away from your friends and family, i think once you get back home to beautiful South Yorkshire ( not Barnsley :D) you may find that you will play less as there are others things to do, socialising with friends and family etc.

My advice is only play on alternate nights and only sunday daytime untill you are back in Yorkshire.

try bringing it down slowly as you dont want to have a relapse.

any problems you can me on 0800 12345678 ask for The SadMaritans:D

I think you've hit the nail on the head there, I didn't care for long gaming sessions until I had nothing else. I used to go out cycling every night and got good and that and when we moved I had no friends/club to go out with.

I've just started playing the guitar so hopefully I'll get obsessed with that and just occasionally game, but still keep the 360!
 

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