Sikh Wedding - any Sikhs out there?

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  1. Pecker

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    We've been invited to a Sikh wedding by our neighbours (their son), and as an R.E. teacher I'm fairly well up on the etiquette - what I don't know I can probably find out anyway on t'internet.

    However, there's something I've not been able to discover.

    The invitation clearly says 'No gifts'.

    Now I know sometimes on an invitation to a Sikh, Muslim or Hindu wedding it says 'No boxed gifts', which pretty much means it's expected to bring money, which would be fine. But this just says 'No gifts'.

    I don't want to turn up empty handed if that might be seen as insulting, and I don't want to turn up with a gift if that's seen as insulting having being asked not to.

    I can ask the neighbour if I really need to (we get on very well), but it'd be happier if I didn't need to.

    Any ideas? Cheers.

    Steve W
     
  2. mjn

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    Last time i went to an Asian wedding, the done thing was cash in the card.

    Food was awesome, even if we did have to sit with women and children :eek: all the Asian men had their own room.
     
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    Cash with card ;-)
     
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    Hi,

    Relax - it really does mean no gifts - just your attendance & that you enjoy yourselves - the day is as much for the guests as it is for the bride & groom and their respective families!

    Cash in a card is down to the individual but really not necessary - chances are all cards will be collected & opened by relatives/friends or third parties anyway so the couple may not be aware of your gesture for quite some time!

    Be warned - there will be plenty of drinks flowing all night long so enjoy!

    Suave!
     
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    As a Sikh myself don't worry you'll be fine.

    Just go and enjoy yourself.
    Sikh weddings guests don't bring gifts.
    A traditional Sikh wedding the bride tends to make a list of what she needs for her new life, then her parents and very close family member's provide what she needs. Mostly its electrical goods especially if there starting there married life a new home.:)
     
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    Ive been to a sikh wedding before and trust me youll enjoy yourself and as for drink , Damn pal its the best of the best .
     
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    no gifts, means nothing is needed gift wise

    just give a card with like £21 or £51 your choice :)

    and enjoy the day, from the gurdwara to the reception its quality

    when it comes to weddings, sikhs now how to do it, but one thing alot of people attend
    and have your dancing shoes on ;) and the whisky, vodka will be flowing :)
     
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    I've heard about Sikh weddings, would love the opportunity to attend one some time, they sound a blast.
     
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    I went to one back in the 80s. I remember us non-Sikhs had to cover our heads with a knotted hanky (Monty Python style). It was a long and enjoyable ceremony.
     
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    Cheers everyone.

    Last time I was in a gurdwara I covered my head with a cloth kept at the door. Think I might go and buy something a tad more colourful, but still thinking what.

    Will the kids (4 & 6) need to cover their heads? We might have trouble with Theo keeping it on!

    Steve W
     
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    Small children are given some leeway.
    You'll see for yourself. :thumbup:
     
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    The 4 old might be OK but I'd recommend something for the 6 year old ...... Head scarf or hat etc?
     
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    personally i would cover both the kids heads
    and yeah if you need any Ramaals (hanky) let me know i can send some your way
     
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    Etiquette or no etiquette, I would never, ever put cash in a card for a wedding, or even birthday party.

    My wedding: did a charity box for my brother's London Marathon. Saw loads of people putting in 10's and 20's. I did a count up during the evening and there was over £300 in the box, and actually (stupidly, perhaps) made an anoucement. Opened it up the next day to find £15 in there. It wasn't a lockable type box, but a hand-built wooden box.

    And at a friends wedding, they had their entire cash stolen.

    As the types of wedding the OP is going to tend to be hundreds of people, you'd be insane to put cash.
     
  16. Pecker

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    Sat at the reception as we speak.

    WOW!

    It's part three of the celebrations, and it's quite an experience.

    Currently enjoying a bottle of my favourite drink. Free Stella. :)

    Steve W
     
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    Any drink thats free is my favourite drink. :smashin:
     
  18. Pecker

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    There was a free bottle if 12 year old Chivas Regal on the table, too.

    Ten at the table, only one whiskey drinker.

    :)

    Steve W
     
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    Yeah that happens
    Like I'd be sitting on a table of 10 and be knocking back a 1l bottle of grey goose while everyone else on Chivas and bacardi
     
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    Just whiskey? Normally there's two varieties of liquor commonly whiskey and Bacardi. The last but one wedding we went to pushed the vote out and had Captain Morgan's as well plus a very good quality brandy, Hine, at the top table. We got a couple of bottles of Hine on our table because the groom didn't like brandy.:thumbsup:

    I'd encourage you to get up and have a dance, don't be a wallflower.:D
     
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    you must end up slaughtered :D, im going to my first tomorrow, looking forward to it
     
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    It was Chivas and Vodka, but I rarely drink vodka.

    And frankly I had enough on my plate...erm...in my glass with the Chivas and Stella.

    I'll post in a little more detail later as there's apparently a Part 4 coming up of which I was unaware, but it was a smashing weekend.

    Steve W
     
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    Sikh weddings are always entertainment from start to finish

    Drinks flowing
    Girls in traditional dress
    Music

    Perfection :)
     

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