short relationships..

[Hixxy9241]

How long would you say a short relationship is, couple of months ? 3-5yrs?

Have you had many "short relationships?

Have you gotten to a point in a relationship where iys been a few years and so its like you owe it to the other person to take it to the next step but not qite sure..

How many relatiinships have you had that have been over 2yrs but shorter than say 6-7yrs

 

[Daddy k]

Short relationship to me is sub 12 months.

 

[Hixxy9241]

Short relationship to me is sub 12 months.

I call that the honeymoon period lol

 

[krish]

be nice if the OP could give some background to why these questions are being asked, as well as answer them

 

[Hixxy9241]

be nice if the OP could give some background to why these questions are being asked, as well as answer them

My longest relationship was 7yrs I have been with my current gf for just over 3yrs and we live together

I feel we may want different things, few weeks ago she wanted to get a joint mortgage now this week it's she wants to get married

We split up last year and I moved bk in in February

I feel we aren't stable enough for the above

 

[shodan]

Couple of hours...

 

[Liquid101]

Until my current girlfriend, my longest relationship had been 4 months. Strangely, I had quite a few 4 month relationships, it just seemed to be where my tolerance level was set.

Once we got past 4 months, I knew she was a keeper. 15 years and 2 children later, it still feels better than previous ones did at 3.5 months

 

[a l e x]

Short relationship to me is sub 12 months.

Same here.

 

[simplicity96]

Until coffee and toast is a short relationship

 

[Boozehound]

I've had one relationship last 18 months, one VERY on/off one over a period if 4 years and every other one's been less than 6 months. Only a couple didn't feel like a long time haha!

I just hate the feeling of obligation and lack of real freedom a relationship brings which is why I'll likely never settle down and become that crazy old guy with all the dogs that lives in every neighbourhood. Still be on Live though...

 

[blue max]

Not sure how you can define it in terms of time. You could see the person all day, every day, or just at the weekend or even less.

It's got to be more than a one-night stand and relationship suggests you have spent some time together and had more than just a physical attraction.

You probably should feel there was the basis of a long-term relationship moving forward, even if that proved not to be the case eventually.

 

[Deleted member 51156]

A couple of mins in a dark corner of the nightclub..

Never really interested in these short relationships that some become embroiled in...Waste of time ....

 

[HouseTonyStark]

See, i had a relationship just under a year, and we lived together from about month 2, we saw eachother every day and spent much time together. In the end we felt more like.. companions than partners, which is nice if you are 50+ but not so grand if you are 20 and 24. ultimately we agreed the situation was sub optimal, and we split, hopefully we can maintain a semblance of that bond, its likely we will at least.

its onlly been 3 days mind.

 

[sergiup]

Kinda what's already been said - it depends. If you only see each other at the weekend, then that'd hardly be a relationship. I strongly believe that you really don't get to know someone until you live with them - and by my experience, I think I'm right in saying this.

Anything under a year would qualify as a short relationship in my eyes; a year of living together provides enough time to experience the majority of people's states/niggles/otherwise hidden behaviour, provided they're being relatively honest and open with each other.

It doesn't really matter how long you've been together before making the next step - what matters is how comfortable and happy you are together; happiness is very subjective though so no-one can judge that for you, some people are happiest being quiet and always seeing eye-to-eye, others are happiest in a much more... energetic relationship, let's say. A mortgage or a marriage or a cat/dog do not constitute a relationship or indication of a stable nor happy one - they're just "things" you get or do together.

Anyway, just personal opinions...

 

[Hixxy9241]

I just hate the feeling of obligation and lack of real freedom a relationship brings which is why I'll likely never settle down and become that crazy old guy with all the dogs that lives in every neighbourhood. Still be on Live though...

I told my gf last night id be having a shower at work after id finished but she moaned about waiting round for me to get back.. So i had a bath at home instead

 

[Dancook]

I strongly believe that you really don't get to know someone until you live with them - and by my experience, I think I'm right in saying this.

I'd agree with this

 

[Hixxy9241]

one VERY on/off one over a period if 4 years

How did that end?

 

[flightphoto]

Depends on what you mean by not stable enough - are you suggesting that there's complications i.e. arguments? I've had a few of around 8 months but then I met my other half of which we've been together 6 years but married 2 of them, she listens to me and doesn't get in the way of my hobbies (I go flying a lot and do a lot of high risk stunts - Think Redbull air races).
I think in your position you need to just think heavily about where you are, commitment is a big thing to think about and if there's actually nothing wrong with your relationship then pop the question as people won't stick around forever. It really is a big step but you won't regret it as a lot of people on here will agree. If you're ok with doing a joint mortgage then that suggests that you're in it for the long run, however, don't just ask the question to make her happy as you need to think if you can die beside her in years to come

 

[Exemplar]

30 minutes, including the cigarette...

 

[blue max]

30 minutes, including the cigarette...

If that includes staggering home from the pub, it seems a bit 'premature'?

 

[flightphoto]

Does 30 minutes include foreplay

 

[Exemplar]

Everything...

 

[flightphoto]

Duracell Bunny for the win!

 

[Egg White]

Until my current girlfriend, my longest relationship had been 4 months. Strangely, I had quite a few 4 month relationships, it just seemed to be where my tolerance level was set.

Once we got past 4 months, I knew she was a keeper. 15 years and 2 children later, it still feels better than previous ones did at 3.5 months

yeah, I was in a long term (well, my longest!) relationship for around 5 years which ended about 3 years ago...since then I've had about 11 lovers but never found that right person (well, maybe with a couple - but sadly they never felt the same way)...

been with my current for 6 months now and she's great in so many ways...but is she the one..? Hmmm...not sure...

 

[AnimalOfAnarchy]

How long would you say a short relationship is, couple of months ? 3-5yrs?

Have you had many "short relationships?

Have you gotten to a point in a relationship where iys been a few years and so its like you owe it to the other person to take it to the next step but not qite sure..

How many relatiinships have you had that have been over 2yrs but shorter than say 6-7yrs

I would say anything under a year is a short relationship and I've been in several of those! I've not actually been in a relationship that has lasted for over a year. My longest was 10 months and my shortest was 2 months. A lot of people say short relationships are meaningless but I think it's what you take out of them that could either make them meaningful or meaningless.