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Question for those with strong anti smoking views

Jules

Distinguished Member
Ok, I know smoking conversations have cropped here before and it polarises opinion, so I'm starting this thread on the assumption that the neutrals and pro smoking gang need not participate.

Now, I make no secret of the fact that I find being around smokers and smoke unbearable, and if see an attractive woman with a cigarette she becomes instantly unnattractive to me. I've always maintained I would never date a smoker.

It makes me sad when people start smoking because they get hooked very quickly and what perhaps started as a temporary thing ends up being a long standing, expensive habit that proves terribly difficult to give up. They just don't grasp how quickly it gets you hooked.

However, heres's my question... If you found the habit as intolerable as I do, would you date an ex smoker ?
Personally, I would not.
(I should point out that I live with a life long non smoker and she's almost as anti as me)
 
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nheather

Distinguished Member
As a life long non-smoker I agree with you right up to the end.

I have a lot of respect for ex-smokers - it must take a lot of commitment, determination and atitude to give up and stay off it.

So in answer to your question, I would have no problem dating an ex-smoker (assuming I was free to date of course).

Cheers,

Nigel
 
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Thug

Moderator
Same here.
I too am a none smoker and hate the look and smell of smoke.
I don't hate smokers as each to their own, just as long as they don't inflict me with it.
I would date an ex-smoker, providing they are been off the fags for some time so the smell isn't in their house or on their clothing.
 

sophies hero

Active Member
Dont smoke and never have, really not keen on it but as its not my life people can do what they like with theirs. My wifes an ex smoker and she doesnt taste like an ash tray so i dont see your issue.

Have you never done anything you regret?
 

HMHB

Distinguished Member
I have strong anti-smoking views and I'm an ex-smoker. I've not smoked for 20 years and will never smoke and don't miss it at all, so really I consider myself a non-smoker.

I would never date a smoker as I find the smell really bad but I'd have no problems with an ex-smoker.
 

gavinl1967

Well-known Member
I have never smoked and have very strong anti-smoking views, I can't abide being in a room with people who smoke or even the smell of it.

I have however, no problem with dating an ex-smoker - my Son's mother is an ex-smoker and my partner of the last 8 years is an ex-smoker (albeit she was a social smoker).

I don't see an issue at all with dating an ex-smoker :confused:
 
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Sonic67

Banned
Ex-smokers can be more against smoking than you are.
 

HMHB

Distinguished Member
Ex-smokers can be more against smoking than you are.

Very true. It was the only way I could cope with giving up smoking. I had to learn to hate it very quickly and I won't even touch a lit cigarette any more.
 

AdrianMills

Well-known Member
However, heres's my question... If you found the habit as intolerable as I do, would you date an ex smoker ?
Personally, I would not.

Why?
 

WeegyAVLover

Distinguished Member
I have dated | got engaged | married my wife who started out as a smoker but is now about 10years without a ciggy and I consider her to be a non-smoker now.

I have to agree with you that the smell of stale smoke or secondary smoke is disgusting but love can be blind and scentless. I never noticed the smell of smoke round my wife, and I say that honestly, but round other people I did/can/do.

But to say you would not date an ex-smoker is a bit extreme. I mean that is like saying you would not date a convicted murder despite them having been to prison and repaid their debt to society.....

Sheeeesh... Some people!
 

WeegyAVLover

Distinguished Member
Oh forgot to add....

About the smell of smoke. There are a few occasions when I have been walking down the street behind someone with a lit fag and it does smell rather nice...

I think it must be a particular brand that gives off a rather nice smell.... However most of the time (9/10) it smells manky!
 

Egg White

Distinguished Member
Oh forgot to add....

About the smell of smoke. There are a few occasions when I have been walking down the street behind someone with a lit fag and it does smell rather nice...

I think it must be a particular brand that gives off a rather nice smell.... However most of the time (9/10) it smells manky!

maybe it's ganja... :)
 

Egg White

Distinguished Member
I've mixed views on this - I'm an ex smoker who hasn't smoked for a few years and don't really socialise with smokers these days either - but my lady's daughter smokes and we were all sharing a car last weekend and she'd just had a tab before getting in the car - and she stunk... :(

but once that initial smell had gone the lingering smell was that of an ex I was seeing last year who was a smoker... :)
 

Greg Hook

Moderator & Reviewer
Personally I have no problem with people slowly killing themselves. Everyone has the right to do whatever they want.

I also slightly agree with WeegieAVLover, sometimes you catch the smell of someone smoking and it smells nice, but it's the stale smoke that I can't stand.

I do just wonder if smokers have any idea of just how much they stink. Their car, home, clothes, hair etc etc. It's disgusting. At least these days you can go into a pub and not have to come home and instantly burn all your clothes.

I can't see an issue with dating an ex-smoker. Seems quite strange that you should persecute everyone that has ever smoked but has since had the good sense to give up.
 

Ed Selley

AVF Reviewer
When I asked my wife on our first date, I suspect I wouldn't have cared if she was on crack- she was simply the person I wanted to be with. As it happens, she doesn't smoke but the idea of removing a vast swathe of potential soul mates from your life not because of what they do but what they did wouldn't be my way of doing things.
 

AdrianMills

Well-known Member
I do just wonder if smokers have any idea of just how much they stink. Their car, home, clothes, hair etc etc.

No, I think, generally, they don't. I never did, my parents neither. After I gave up I even had to get rid of my prize book collection because I couldn't stand the stink - books really hold on to that stale smoke smell.
 

Egg White

Distinguished Member
well, I can see his point of view - tho, it depends on the person themselves, as if they're still a lazy so and so who likes to get drunk a lot then you can easily see them falling into that trap of wanting to smoke again...

but then if they've turned their life around and live very healthily then why not date them?
 

AdrianMills

Well-known Member
Because I've met too many people who 'gave up the fags 5 years ago', only to meet them 2 years down the line back on them.

It's clearly a deeply entrenched feeling I have, and I'm happy to be labelled all the things I have been in this thread.... I expected it.

Ah. So it's because they may, at some point in the future, take up smoking again? A bit extreme. But yes, some ex-smokers do start again even after many years.
 

Iccz

Distinguished Member
Okay so because someone has done something in the past they may do it again?

Do you check your potential partners for previous?
What if they once cheated on a partner many years ago? They could do it again...

How far do you go with your checks?

Personally I take someone as they are, I don't really like smoking so wouldn't want to date a smoker... but I would be fine with an ex-smoker, I can't see any reason not to be.
 

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