I recently replied in a rather short and possibly rude fashion to eFGee, in a thread entitled "the realities of getting a divorce". The thread was closed before eFGee had the right to reply. I have swapped PM's with eFGee since then and feel the need to apologise publicly to redress any imbalance. It is important that these forums maintain a level of good nature and civility. You all deserve nothing less. XoD.