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not what was supposed to happen...

Discussion in 'General Chat' started by Solomon Grundy, Jul 21, 2005.

  1. Solomon Grundy

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    Went to have my wife's 10 week pregnancy scan on Monday...looking forward to seeing the first pictures etc. very excited!

    But then it all went wrong...

    what had happened was that the baby had stopped growing four weeks ago but the sac has continued to grow as normal, I've never felt any emotion like that one, like a coke can being crushed or something...it's hard to describe how my wife reacted. To go from one feeling to the complete opposite in a heartbeat.

    The last couple of days have been ok, we are both getting used to it really. I am surprised at how she has bounced back (I think she will be a bit up and down for a while) although she was a bit upset that the hospital couldn't fit her in until today for an "evacuation" as they so nicely put it. I can't imagine how it must feel to carry it around for three days knowing what you know.

    sorry guys, I don't know what the point of this thread is supposed to be. We'll get over it, just one of those things.
     
  2. HMHB

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    Deepest sympathies mate, you need to get strength from each other at a time like this.
     
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    So sorry to hear this. I know what you and your wife are going through. PM me if you want to chat more. Things will get better I promise.
     
  4. The Dude

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    Really sorry about that one mate... My Bro went through similar twice over, a few years back.

    I've got 2 beautiful nieces now, things will turn around..


    If you ever need any time out to drink beer and talk Hifi, I'm just in Beverley.

    drop me a message anytime.
     
  5. overkill

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    Keep a close eye on her m8. Deeply upsetting as it is for you it's ten times worse for her.

    When it happened to us I thought I'd done my best, but sometimes nothing you do can help. I found that out when I read an essay my wife had written years later about the whole experience. It made me weep to read it.

    Be as supportive as you can, help each other through it, and everything will come good in the end. We have two more children after the event to prove that it can.

    My sympathies are with you both.
     
  6. MartinImber

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    You have to be philosophical - the foetus was not viable.

    Just keep trying and see what happens

    We had twins after one of these
     
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    I'm so sorry to hear this - we're going through our first pregnancy about the same time as you.

    As everyone else says, it's desperately sad, but it will work out in the end.

    You need to be strong for your wife - she may find it hard not to blame herself in some silly way.

    Best of luck.
     
  8. Solomon Grundy

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    It has been a crappy week but I think we are coming to terms with it. I can feel already that we are pulling through. Thank you so much for your words and support, they were a real help to me yesterday whilst Claire was in the hospital.
     
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    My heart goes out to you & your wife Decadence.

    I'm sure your pain will ease with time.
     
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    My deepest sympathies and also best wishes for future family life.
     
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    Yeah mate keep your chin up and help the wife keep hers up. You'll get through it.
     
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    No need to apologise about the 'point of the thread'....

    I sort of know what you are going through, but no-one can really know how you both feel, other than youselves.

    Just be there for each other. Speak to each other, family and friends.
    Don't be afraid to talk about it, and don't be worried about other peoples feelings when you do talk, they will be glad that you are getting it out into the open. Believe me, it really helps.

    Feel free to PM me.
     

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