SonOfSJ Thanks for your private message, this gives another insight, after reading your PM i went back to a TV store.
In this shop there was a 77A80J next to the 85X95J, I was allowed to change all settings (problem with 99% of the shops is that they put all TV on bright mode which is far from ideal) there was tennis on both TVs, I also got to see Yt demos and a piece of film.
Had put the same settings on the X95J as on my A77J this didn't work, then put the X95J on default mode and this looked pretty good in the store, sdr tennis/serie, 4k demo, Yt 1080 Matrix Trailer there was no visible blooming to notice.
1 on 1 comparison in terms of black Oled is the master, but the Sony X95J was not bad at all , if you look at the X95J separately I found it was quite a very good TV.
I also realize for colors etc is personal taste and that an Isf calibration is very important, I think a well calibrated X95J will give a very good picture compared to an standaard Oled.
I'm going to take the gamble and exchange the 77A80J for an 85X95J, I also have a 14-day exchange right, if i don't like the X95J in the end i will buy the Lg83C14 or maby the 83A90J if the price drops abit.
Prices in our country (the Netherlands/Belgium) are nice at the moment
-Sony 85X95J after cashback €2499 (stunning price)
-Lg83C14 after cash back €3999
-Sony 83A90J after cashback €4549