My mrs tells me I have 'passive/agressive personality disorder..

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  1. Ari33

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    Any psychologists on the board...

    Or is it quite common for women to try the personality dissorder label mind games after a row? Its taken her 5 years to diagnose me.

    Personally I think Im just me... :confused:


    :(
     
  2. Dextur

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    Even if there was somebody qualified on here they couldn't help you without far more information.

    An AV forum is probably not the best place to remotely diagnose potential mental disorders .
     
  3. Mr Incredible

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    Tell her she can **** right off, please. ;) :D
     
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    I nearly went there .:devil:
     
  5. Dancook

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    There are certain behaviors that help identify passive-aggressive behavior.

    Obstructionism
    Procrastination
    Resentment
    Resisting suggestions from others
    Sullenness
    Ambiguity
    Avoiding responsibility by claiming forgetfulness
    Blaming others
    Chronic lateness and forgetfulness
    Complaining
    Not expressing hostility or anger openly
    Fear of competition
    Making excuses and lying
    Fear of dependency
    Fear of intimacy
    Fear of authority
    Fostering chaos
    Intentional inefficiency

    I've ticked three... how many does the OP get?:) (edit.. added resentment...maybe)
     
  6. imightbewrong

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    Chronic lateness and forgetfulness
    Avoiding responsibility by claiming forgetfulness

    Sometimes being forgetful - sometime claiming to be forgetful :)
     
  7. Iccz

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    I'm guessing the fact you're asking for psychologists on here, that she is also not one. Which kind of makes her 'assessment' very easy to dismiss.

    First of all, do you have any idea why she has said this? (except the row*)
    Where did she find out the information for her reasoning...
    It's quite possible that she has read it in a magazine or similar as they often run articles on this kind of thing.

    As for the 5 years thing, it's actually quite common for people to not notice if someone is a passive aggressive... though that is not to say she is right.

    Just as a previous poster has said, even if qualified someone would need a lot more information - probably more than you're willing to post on a forum, as it would most likely go back to childhood to try figure it out.

    *The reason I ask "except the row", is because events like that are just usually a catalyst for people saying something they've been keeping in.


    Do you find that you are quite different people, perhaps even opposites?
    Perhaps you're not very honest an upfront with feelings and she is? (Was she the only one/first one to state these "feelings" in the row?)
    How did you react to the comments, aside from posting here?


    I used to be quite passive aggressive myself but managed to get over the issues. I wont go in to much detail here, but feel free to PM me if you want to discuss anything in more detail.

    (I'm not a psychologist, but have done a lot of reading on the subject - especially this area)

    It's not just how many you tick, it can be how severe some of these are as well, not really the best guide for it though.
     
  8. simon ess

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    Oh dear, I have a problem. Seriously.
     
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    Well as long as you don't have a wife to argue with all the symptoms will disappear and you'll be as right as rain!!:smashin:
     
  10. mjn

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    Is the wife a doctor?

    No? I think its safe to ignore her.

    Most women's brains aren't wired correctly as it is.
     
  11. shodan

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    Fixed! :thumbsup:
     
  12. Duncan G

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    Passive/aggressive disorder also known as being an argumentative awkward sod.

    :smashin:
     
  13. reiteration

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    yep, I hope the OP was able to laugh when his mrs said what she said...

    me, I've never been a one to argue...can't see the point, tho I was in a relationship with someone around 10 years ago and her sister had bi-polar, as did her dad...tho, she said that she wasn't affected - which was true to an extent, but she was quite highly strung and we would argue, as it seemed I was either with her, or against her...

    and when a relationship is like that - you simply, have to
    move on ime...
     
  14. Ste7en

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    Damn! I think I have aggressive-aggressive behavior :D
     
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    I think magazines and lifestyle TV programmes have a lot to answer for.

    I know my wife watches these things a lot and sometimes soaks it all in. Of course there are genuine cases, but these media can't hope to cover individual cases and instead often end up seeding ideas that simply don't exist. Great for those who like to put labels on things to justify that they are in the right.

    Of course their are genuine cases but these need to be diagnosed by experts not by some misandrist agony aunt writing in a magazine.

    Cheers,

    Nigel
     
  16. Ari33

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    Thanks guys,

    I know it probably too deep and personal a subject to discuss on a public forum but I if I do have a problem Im sure some on here might be able to tell me straight then I can look into professional help.

    Five, maybe six [​IMG]




    My MBTI test results, say I am INTP (personality type) which I must admit describes me down to a T, warts and all. Portrait of an INTP

    I suspect/hope its a personality difference/clash rather than a disorder [​IMG]
    I've posted more info than I intended so its probably a good idea to take this to pm. If you are cool with that I'd apreciate it very much.


    Thanks...
     
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  17. KyleS1

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    Hmm, I just did some reading on the subject and I seem to display a lot of the attributes of a passive aggressive.
     
  18. Iccz

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    If you read up on a number of personality disorders you'll find you display a lot of the traits of many of them, it's generally not something to worry about :thumbsup:
     
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    Hello, welcome to the mental health hotline.


    If you have obsessive compulsive disorder, press 1 repeatedly. If you are co-dependent, please ask someone to press 2 for you. If you have multiple personality syndrome, press 3, 4, 5, and 6. If you suffer from paranoid schizophrenia, we know who you are and what you want. Stay on the line so we can trace your call. If you are delusional, press 7 and your call will be transfered to the mothership.

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    Give her a slap then you'll be no longer passive - job done.
     
  21. KyleS1

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    Unless I have all of the disorders! :eek:
     
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    I tick almost all of those.
     

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