This has been a long running conversation between me and my wife. She wants to have completely joint finances where all our money just goes into one big pot. I prefer to pay into a joint pot for house/family bills, and then retain the rest of our wages to manage as we need. Currently our joint account pays all the house bills. I pay the majority of everything else anyway (wife is part time due to look after our kids), but I also have control over how much money we put aside into savings, which is more important to me than my wife. I'm just interested how others manage it as it's been a point of contention on many occasions.