In Memory of Edie

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  1. MrFraggle

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    I have just come home after watching my partner of thirty five years die. She was mainly fine this afternoon but from 7 pm went rapidly downhill. An x-ray showed a collapsed lung and Pneumonia it was so unpleasant to watch someone you love struggle for breath, how helpless you feel.

    Why she clung too life these last few hours I will never know, there was nothing practical the medical profession could do as even putting her in intensive care on a ventilator would only have prolonged the inevitable. I am grateful that she did not suffer but god I am going to miss her.

    In certain respects death was quick as in a few short hours she went from a patient with COPD and an infection to a woman struggling to live.

    Later I must begin the practicalities of deaths aftermath and phone all her friends though we tend to accept death a little more easily given we are after all getting on, but it is still sad.

    Today I saw the true face of the NHS who could not have handled the whole sad business any better with professionalism but very caring.

    Weird aside my cat has just jumped up on my lap, something she has never done in the 5 years we have had her.

    Thanks for listening, delete if inappropriate.
     
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  2. sianba

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    MrFraggle
    So sorry to hear about your loss must be so hard for you right now, My thoughts are with you and hope you stay strong over the next few days/weeks/months.
    RIP MrsFraggle
     
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    So sorry to hear of your loss MrFraggle, very sad :(
    My sincere condolences to you and anyone who is affected by the loss of your wife.
    Also thank you for sharing this with us, the community here is lovely and I'm sure you will get whatever it is you need from us in this tough time, whether it's a place to come and vent, get support and advice or just to drop in and read the replies, we'll be here and our thoughts will be with you.

    It may not mean anything but if there is anything I can do for you please send me a message.

    Peace and love

    Saf

    RIP MrsFraggle
     
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    So sorry for your loss.
    I hope everything goes as well as can be expected.
    I do not and cannot know how you are feeling at the moment but if there is anything you would like to talk about then we as a community are here. I think I speak for us all with that.

    Once again, Sorry to hear about your loss.
     
  5. mikes48

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    So sorry to hear this, my sincerest condolences to you.
     
  6. MrFraggle

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    Thanks folks,
    I sat with her after she passed just talking crap for half an hour. Her son, granddaughter and sister were also there so at least she died surrounded by people that loved her. Goodbye Eddie it should not have ended this way, you deserved to die gently in your sleep, this was cruel.

    I am wandering around the flat doing practical stuff, making notes of all the people, official bodies, banks etc etc etc I need to contact.
     
  7. DOBLY

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    Sorry for your loss MrFraggle.
    Don't worry about how you come across to others in these coming days and weeks - grief is a strange beast that is as individual as each of us.
    Cats are perceptive beings that sometimes, if it suits them, know exactly what someone else needs.
     
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    Wise words.

    Grieve how you need to grieve. Don't let anyone tell you how to do it.
     
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    Please accept my deepest sympathies Mr Fraggle. RIP Mrs Fraggle.

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    The apologies in the title are not needed.
    Such sad news and I have real tears for your loss.

    Take your time over things there is no rush. It may seem a distant thing in your mind but remember to look after yourself at this time.

    Huge AVForums love from the neuty family.

    RIP MrsFraggle

    Carl
     
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    Very sorry to hear of your loss MrFraggle, my deepest sympathies to you.
     
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    So sorry to hear this thinking of you and your family at this time.
    Buster
     
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    MrFraggle my heart goes out to you but remember we are here for you.
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    :( and your cat knows. They always do.
     
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    I mirror everyone else comments, sincerest condolences.
     
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    Terrible terrible experience for you, you have my sincerest sympathies.
     
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    So sorry to hear of your loss, my deepest sympathies to you and your family.
     
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    I think it’s safe to say on behalf on Stuart, Vicki, the Admin and Moderartion teams, and no doubt everyone who read your opening post that we are sorry for your loss.

    It’s incomprehensible in my world to understand how you must feel now, but well done for explaining it so caringly.

    RIP
     
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    I can only echo the words of everyone else

    So sorry to read this, I hope everyone’s words provide some form of comfort and support

    Deepest sympathies
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    My sincere condolences also MrFraggle. Thoughts are with you and your loved ones at this sad time. Take care.
     
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    My condolences, thoughts go to you and yours at this time.
     
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    Sorry to hear of your loss, my thoughts are with you at this sad time.
     
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    Sad news, my thoughts are with you.

    Cheers,

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    Such sad news. Sorry to hear of your loss MrFraggle. If you need to come on here and vent, we are here for you. RIP.
     
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    Really sorry to hear this, my sincerest condolences to you and your family.
     
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    Sorry for your loss.
     
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    No need to say sorry MrFraggles, my condolences to you and the rest of your family, vent in here if you need too.
     
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    My condolences to you and your family circle at this very sad time.
     
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    The deepest of sympathy Mr Fraggles, i hope the memory of your time with your wife will help to carry you through these hard times, may god bless you sir.
     

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