Hi This weekend my wife was taken into hospital and told that she has to have some of her intestine removed and will need a colostomy bag. She has suffered with an illness called Ulcerative Colitis for 3 years but recently it has got quite bad. I don't know what to do or say. She's only 26 years old and it is our son's 1st birthday on Sunday which she will now miss due to her being in hospital. The thing is that I do not think her consultant has exhausted every line of treatment to help her before diving straight in and telling her she must have the operation. It just doesn't seem right. I don't know whether it is just me in denial but she has never been allowed to finish a course of whatever treatment he put her on. She would try something for a bit and if it didn't work very well he would switch her to something else, it was all a bit too hasty. I am going to question it more when I go to see her this afternoon but at the same time I still need to come to terms with the fact that my beautiful wife is going to need a colostomy bag for the rest of her life... I know it isn't about me at the moment, of course I will be there for her every step of the way as she means the world to me but there is nobody I can talk to about this and I feel like my head is about to explode with all the questions, feelings, fear and emotions inside it...at the same time I feel bad for thinking of myself because there really is no time to do it. I have no experience with this type of procedure...or living with someone who has a stoma (the name given to the piece of intestine which will be on the outside of her body). Anyway...this post is all over the place and not too legible so I will give it a rest...it's easier to type something than it is to talk to people you know sometimes...any help or advice would be very much appreciated. Thanks.