cazlol
Established Member
Hi,
Bit of a saga so bear with me! I've always wanted a tattoo but never had the reason for getting one. I didn't want to get one just for the sake of getting one so I've waited many years.
I've just had a small one done on my wrist which are mine, my husband's and our daughter's first initials intertwined. I honestly thought he'd like it as I thought it was a nice representation of our family and our link etc. It's small enough to be covered with a bangle if not wanting to be shown off. I'd also designed it myself. He wasn't exactly thrilled but didn't say too much.
My Dad has been battling Alzheimer's for the last 7 years and the best way to describe him now is as a shell. I've designed a tattoo that I want to get done which is basically a pile of books (he loved books) with medical terms and his name on the book spines (he was a Dr). I showed the design to my Mum, who I thought would go mad at the thought of me doing this but she burst into tears and was so touched and has even had the design printed out and framed!
Now, I tell my husband that I want to get this done. He goes mad. Says he absolutely hates tattoos, hates the family one, doesn't get it, thinks I'm doing it as some sort of emotional reaction and would really hate me to do this. I obviously respect him and love him but I also really want to make permanent this tribute to my Dad (he was a very well respected Dr in his field).
Does anyone have any ideas what I can do? I'm stuck between a rock (my mum, who would love me to get this done) and my husband.
It's also quite hard to have a reasoned discussion with my husband as he's a lawyer and seems to have an answer to everything I throw at him. We had the discussion, he said he hated it & we left it at that. I don't know if showing him the design would help.
Please any ideas welcomed, obviously I've thought of all the sexual ones!! But help with any reasoned discussion ideas would be great.
Thanks for reading all this!
Caroline
Bit of a saga so bear with me! I've always wanted a tattoo but never had the reason for getting one. I didn't want to get one just for the sake of getting one so I've waited many years.
I've just had a small one done on my wrist which are mine, my husband's and our daughter's first initials intertwined. I honestly thought he'd like it as I thought it was a nice representation of our family and our link etc. It's small enough to be covered with a bangle if not wanting to be shown off. I'd also designed it myself. He wasn't exactly thrilled but didn't say too much.
My Dad has been battling Alzheimer's for the last 7 years and the best way to describe him now is as a shell. I've designed a tattoo that I want to get done which is basically a pile of books (he loved books) with medical terms and his name on the book spines (he was a Dr). I showed the design to my Mum, who I thought would go mad at the thought of me doing this but she burst into tears and was so touched and has even had the design printed out and framed!
Now, I tell my husband that I want to get this done. He goes mad. Says he absolutely hates tattoos, hates the family one, doesn't get it, thinks I'm doing it as some sort of emotional reaction and would really hate me to do this. I obviously respect him and love him but I also really want to make permanent this tribute to my Dad (he was a very well respected Dr in his field).
Does anyone have any ideas what I can do? I'm stuck between a rock (my mum, who would love me to get this done) and my husband.
It's also quite hard to have a reasoned discussion with my husband as he's a lawyer and seems to have an answer to everything I throw at him. We had the discussion, he said he hated it & we left it at that. I don't know if showing him the design would help.
Please any ideas welcomed, obviously I've thought of all the sexual ones!! But help with any reasoned discussion ideas would be great.
Thanks for reading all this!
Caroline