Gluten for punishment!

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  1. Member 55145

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    So then, at the weekend I found out I was going to be a dad for the first time(found out boxing day but we told everyone on Sat).
    This also means if I want to have further children I have to marry my GF :rolleyes:
    And to provide for all this I am now having to buy a house to put us all in!

    Thankfully and maybe it’s a sign, but a property we were interested and really regretted missing out on came up on the day all of this was decided (Sat night)

    Everyone is happy for me but laughing at the same time. Me the guy who said he would never marry and never have kids and I’ve decided to do the three most stressful things in life all in one go! And I turn 25 in a couple of weeks aswell!

    How did it go for you guys? Any advice?

    Im happy as larry and feel like I won the lottery! :arty:

    Oh yea and now I'l be able to park closer to the store like all the other parents so things just get better and better! :devil:
     
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    i like the way your having your first ever baby and all you can think about is parking closer to the entrance in tescos;)
     
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    well i have to find out what all the hooha is about dont i? :devil: (ours has just started fining people!)
     
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    Firstly congratulations, the feeling is immense isn't it.:)

    Secondly, try to hold on to that feeling for as long as possible because the further the pregnancy goes, the more reality bites and you realise that parking closer to Tescos is the least of your worries.:D

    My advice would be enjoy it, grab hold with both hands and enjoy the ride.

    Getting your own house and a family to put in it is truly the best thing I've ever done by far. Money is always an issue but that's just the way it goes with house prices today I'm afraid.

    Oh and prepare yourself for your partners hormones too, PMT is nothing compared to what's coming.:devil:

    Good luck.:smashin:
     
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    Cheers for that dave, fortunately due to my recent payrise money isnt a problem, could afford the mortgage 3 times over. im in the best financial position of my life so its a good job it came now!

    I really cant wait, she is a moody so n so when PMT is around so dread to think what its gonna be like, but eveyone i know has told me its worth it in the end!

    thing is we need to get married quick before she's showing, so we are getting married on 29th march! :eek: should be a fun couple of months as il prob be moving into the new house end of march, and the GF is already 8 weeks gone!
     
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    As a single 24 year old ive just bought myself a house and i have tbh that was the most stressful thing ive ever done..... let alone catching kids at the same time...

    anyway congrats im sure you'll sort it out.

    If you want to know anything about buying from someone your own age PM me.
     
  7. mij

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    Almost exactly the same as me, only that was 22 years ago for me, and I am still having fun :smashin:

    Good luck
     
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    Congratulations to you and your intended.

    Seem like you are going to have a busy time ahead of yourself, cant give any advice on marriage as I havent been down that road.

    Well to be brutally honest here if the Two of you can make it through the Pregnancy, Marriage and Housing Moving all in this short space of time,
    You are made for each other and will be together for a long long time!!

    ps pregnancy does have some up points, especially the big-a-boobies scenario :rotfl::rotfl:
     
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    I saw the title and thought you were on a Gluten free diet ;)
     
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    remember that those parent/child spaces at the supermarket are not just closer to the store - THEY ARE WIDER, thought you would have got the grasp of it by now:devil:

    you'll soon find out how difficult it is getting baby in and out of the car and then will be swearing at people with no kids who park in the spaces.

    Anyway, congrats and hope house buying goes easy, its just a torrid thing to deal with and i'm smack in the middle of selling/buying and my mrs is 12 weeks gone with our 2nd little bundle!!

    Look forward to all the nappies!!!
     
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    He did, now she is pregnant :devil:

    Contragulations btw, my best mate has a baby girl xmas eve, chuffed to bits he was you can really see it in his face, hope the same goes for you both.
     
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    I'd beat him about the head with a french loaf for that spelling! :D

    Mind you, he is under stress. :devil:
     
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    ha thanks for the contributions

    i had used word to spell check and put Gluten on dictionary.com as i thought it was wrong, couldnt find an alternative so just went with it as i was in a rush!

    mortgage advice would be great! esspecially as i have a default (40k shared income helps alot in this area)

    the supermarket part was just a tongue in cheek joke from a few months back where i was showing my objections to mother and child spaces. id rather all spaces were bigger instead
     
  14. mjn

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    Why, what religion are you?
     
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    Congratulations, and don't worry, these "stressful" moments cluster for most people too..
     
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    Sorry but now that you're going to be a parent with a real need for a wider space you'll find the spaces are always fully occupied, often by people who don't have kids or who didn't take the kids that day ;)

    Congratulations though and be sure to have some rest because despite all the thoughts that you'll be able to cope, you'll be tired.
     
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    i dont have one. but if i dont marry her, her mother will make sure i cant have anymore :eek:
     
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    Just remember that daughters usually turn out like their mothers.
     
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    cheers for that :smashin:
     
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    We planned to have a baby so Doris became pregnant, (I'd like to think I helped!), and then we had to buy a house as we lived in a rented flat, and I had to pass my driving test.

    So having a baby, and inside that 9 months (or just under, as it turned out) I bought a house, got moved in and took lessons and took and passed my driving test then had the baby.

    Quite a stressfull time but I wouldn't change a thing and I'm proud of managing.
     
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    good for you shodan :thumbsup:

    right first question of probably many.

    We need to get married, im not a christian and dont want anything to do with god (but i dont mind those who do)

    My partner wants us to marry in a church which im happy with. im fine with a vicar marrying us but dont want the word god mentioned.
    I've been told that i need to see my local vicar and pay £35 for a certificate to let me get married (something to do with banns)
    Now im not religious, and im insulted in the fact i seem to be forced to go to my local vicar for his permission.

    any ideas on what i need to do?
    (My partner is set on this church with the vicar and not a registry office, and i want to be married before baby is born)

    cheers peeps :thumbsup:
     
  22. mjn

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    Snap, i was also told that i had to pass my driving test. Two weeks before the big day i passed.

    Didn't help getting made redundant while the other half was 7 months gone :eek: either.
     
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    why bother getting married, more stress and hassle for no good reason, not to mention th expense
     
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    Congratulations and enjoy it...
     
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    I got married in a church despite being non-religious (missus wanted it).

    You won't get the vicar to not mention god! You will have to have hymns, readings etc. We had to put in an appearance at church for a while, too. I also think it was only OK because I had been baptised as a baby (my wife hadn't).
    Baans (banns? - announcement of intention to marry) need to be 3 times for some reason.

    Oh, and congrats. Becoming a dad was absolutely the best thing that's ever happened to me.
     
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    The reason for Marriage Banns is to allow anyone to raise legal objections to the marriage taking place. Legal objections to prevent for instance bigamy or incestuous marrige.

    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Banns_of_marriage
     
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    If you feel strongly I'd explore the alternatives, there are many. Otherwise, I'd follow the church procedures with little fuss, as it will become more stressful all round if you don't ;)
     
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    ah yes, big blow up today and fell out with the mother in law and now father in law :rolleyes:

    all because im being forced to be dishonest by accepting a god when i dont believe in it.

    not sure what im gonna do as she really wants this church!

    i could just lie and accept it, but i dont want to be dishonest when im getting married!

    why cant people just accept you for who you are?
     
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    Stick to your guns.

    I always wanted to get married overseas but rolled over and got married here because the better half wanted all of her family there.

    We still had a fantastic day but I just wish we'd tried to compromise now.

    I was adamant though that never would I get married in a church and luckily she felt the same.

    Not a nice position to be in.
     
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    I know EXACTLY how you feel! I never wanted to get married. Err, I mean in a church as I'm not a believer and it would make me a hippacrit (sp?) to do so. In fact I think I might burst into flames before I got near the church doors!
    Doris said that if she were to get married then it would have to be the big church wedding, but she doesn't believe either so she's not quite convinced. Then I came home from work one day to find she had changed her name and title by deedpoll so she is officially Mrs Shodan anyway! What a result and saved me about 15 grand! Belter!
     

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