Feeling Guilty For Dog Having Operation


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Hi All, I just wondered if anyone else had been in same situation and how you coped with it. We have a gorgeous Golden Retriever who is the most friendliest dog in the world and is so loving and sociable. She has severe hip dysplacia and needs an op on both hips, the rehab means she will be confined to a crate for 5 weeks maybe a couple more and it literally breaks my heart to know she will have to be like this. We have put the op off and covid affected it too but its now penned in for her first op after Christmas. We've bought the crate and I feel awful looking at it. She's 5 now and does need the op doing as its quite severe. I just feel so guilty and actualy upset at what she will have to endure for rehab to make sure its a success.


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There is no way of getting around it, it will be hard and it will kill you inside what choice do you have.
I remember having to starve my cat before her small op and I have never felt so terrible. Fortunately all went well and she was eating big time the next day.
You just have to accept that you are going to feel, terrible for however long it takes but sitting with your dog whilst in the cage each day, giving it plenty of fuss will hopefully make things a little easier but as I said it is going to be hard.


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Try not to feel guilty as you are doing the best for your dog and there's a lot of owners out there who are not as loving as yourself and would forgo their dogs quality of life to save on the vet's bills. Once the op is over and once she has fully recovered, out of pain and is feeling better I'm sure she will appreciate her new pain free life. And you could always spoil her with extra doggie treats and cuddles etc :clap:


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We are setting up a bed futon for the kitchen where her crate will be and we have a TV down there so we are taking turns us and the kids in sleeping down there and at night one of us will be there with her. It's just knowing what she is like and what she will have to do is not going to be nice for her.


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Don't worry about the look of a crate, crate training is a thing and was terrific for our border collie from pup to house trained. It may be a little different with an adult being introduced to one, but it will keep her safe and I'm sure you'll make it very comfy for her, she will soon make it her own home for a few weeks.

She certainly won't feel like doing a lot immediately after the op anyway other than give you those eyes to make you feel even more guilty ;)


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One of my cats was hit by a car and needed 6 weeks in the crate. If he didn’t, his hips wouldn’t heal.

Tight Git

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If it helps, look at it this way:

It's 5 weeks confinement to give her possibly 5 years of pain free life.

I reckon that's a pretty good ratio.

Of course, that's looking at it logically as I'm not emotionally involved...


If you don't do it know you will regret it. I would have it done there are some very good specialist vets that do a really good job. Our beautiful Cocker had a tumour on her side that grew quickly to the size of a tennis ball. This was the second one she had and the first was removed, we thought successfully.

Our vet had just taken on a soft tissue specialist and on seeing her said he could remove it. Hell of an op for her and she spent three nights at the vets. Gave us another two precious years with her. Now she has gone and I miss her dreadfully.

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