I could not have been more courteous in my dealings with this "gentleman". I am venting here because I feel I need to. What has it come to when I have to be careful what I say and how I say it to someone who has my money and holding me over a virtual barrel. I want to let rip on him now but am going to leave it a short while longer. He has read all my messages, it takes a couple of seconds to answer and put my mind at ease if he is a genuine person (which I guarantee he is not given his track record so far). I can't see how anyone can begin to defend his behaviour. And no, I don't have anything better to do at the moment.
Yours,
The Grinch
Why have they got you over a barrel?
If he gets away with it this time next time it could be tenfold and it could be someones elderly disabled mother
I wish I knew his side of the story but he just will not communicate with me.
I kind of resent the word SINISTER being bandied about on this thread. I am actually quite a laid back bloke, not easily riled but this has me up in arms for some reason, but not in a "sinister" way
You're not coming across as that at all. All these quotes I've posted are from just the last page. It's a completely disproportionate reaction to the situation.
I've thought about that. To be honest, I don't think I would contact his employer, even if I threatened it (hope he isn't reading this) but if provoked, who knows
So you wouldn't... but you might?
It's not stalking, I unearthed the aforementioned info this morning with a well judged search
It comes across as stalking.
Why do I feel like I'm on trial?
Because you chose to post about your situation on a forum that allows other members to comment. And some don't agree with how you're going about dealing with this.
Like I said before, next time it could be someones elderly mum for a few grand
Research on a fraudster, yes. I did say help and advice, not to be critiqued for wanting to retrieve my money
Again, you chose to post on a forum and garner other people's opinions. As I've said before, I'm sure everybody would like you to get your money back. I certainly would. But the way you're coming across is quite sinister because you don't know why the seller isn't responding.
The hassle is all mine, don't you worry too much or lose any sleep over it
These are not the words of someone who is laid back.
Agreed, but in this case there has been no delivery or attempt. Had it been taken that way, with at least an attempt weirdly enough, that would have been a lot better
To those of you who have added genuine insight advice and encouragement, and help me see the wood amongst the trees, so to speak, I thank you. It hasn't gone unnoticed.
I have also now taken you off of my list.
You seem to only want people who agree with you to post?
You have mate, food for thought, thanks
See above.
My take on this is that you're being totally and completely irrational and unnecessarily dramatic.
If you really want to put this person on the spot then go and confront them. I wouldn't suggest that normally but it's better than digging around on the internet and making idle threats.
You obviously want revenge and that's worrying when we're just talking about a jacket that didn't turn up. Yes, be annoyed... but to start looking into this person's life and even considering approaching their employer is, frankly, concerning.
You really need to take a bit of time to calm down and stop being irrational.
Chill out a bit, listen to some music...
'No Jacket Required' by Phil Collins is a superb album...