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  1. PoochJD

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    Help me please!

    I know that this is only a very vaguely related DVD query, but I really could do with some advice here.

    At one of my local big record/movie stores, there is an extremely beautiful woman, that I would like to ask out, who works on the videos and DVD floor.

    The problem is... I simply daren't ask her. Firstly, I've never had a girlfriend, ever; I'm 23 y.o., but have the maturity of someone two or three years above that age; and the few women I have asked, have always said "Thanks, but no thanks", hence this is really making me nervous!

    Any genuine and useful advice from members of either sex, would be gratefully appreciated.

    Pooch
     
  2. jonny

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    Dont tell me u also get the "cant we just be friends line" aswell!! lol
    I felt exactly the same as u a few months ago then one of my girl friends said just chat to women coz they luv being chatted up!!
    So i gave it a go and most of the time it seems to work fine!!
    If u just chat to her first when the shop is really empty u can get to know her, then a few days or a week later you will probably feel brave enuff to ask her out!
    Just go for it the worst u will get is the answer no and have to start buying your DVDs somewhere else!

    Oh yeh going in the shop to chat to her gives u a perfect excuse to buy more DVDs!
     
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    Where do you live and which store is it? [​IMG]

    Why don't you ask her if she can recommend you a movie or two? Then when she does, buy one on the condition that she watches it with you - make sure its not a porn movie you buy (unless she recommended it!!) [​IMG]

    Right....anybody else with relationship problems.........?
     
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    Well I'm not exactly the best person to ask when it comes to asking women out - I'm single to [​IMG] But, what I would do, and this is honestly what I would do, is just ask her out. She can only say no, and if she does, well so be it, shop somewhere else. [​IMG]

    Basically say to her, I've seen you in here before and I'd never forgive myself if I didn't ask you out for a drink. See what happens?

    Let us know what happens.

    BTW, where is this godess [​IMG] [​IMG]

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    Buy one of the lovers guide dvds from her and ask if she wouldnt mind showing you how to perform some of the things on the dvd....let us know how you get on...Good Luck

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  6. Jay2000

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    I've been engaged for 4 yrs and have lived with my girlfriend for 5yrs.

    Wanna trade? [​IMG]

    Seriously - it puts a huge strain on your DVD watching. Picture the scenario...

    "Hmmm, about time I watched that R4 Abyss SE with extra extras!"

    "Sod off!!! EastEnders is on in 10 mins!"

    "Grrrrr"

    Still - the regular sex is a plus I guess. [​IMG]

    On a more serious note - just ask her, dont use any corny lines, she will just laugh in your face. Oh - and it might be wise to try and find out is she's already hooked up!

    Good luck!!!

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    Get a job were she works then you'll have time to suss her out. Just think of the works night out. Or steal some dvd's she might be the one to catch you and hey at least you'll have somrthing to talk about oh and a criminal record. Seriously just ask her out if she say's no don't go elsewhere to buy your dvd's it'll show her your a confident person who accepts rejection well. After all she might think twice you never know.
     
  8. PoochJD

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    To All Of You,

    Thanks for the advice! It is genuinely appreciated. In reference to certain pieces of advice, I offer the following info:

    1) "Get a job in the same shop as her."
    Well, I have applied, but no luck. However, have just started a new job at my local Pizza Hut.

    2) "What store is this, and where do you live?"
    Aha, the $64,000 question. Well, would you like to ask the audience, try 50-50, or phone a friend?! ;-) Sorry folks, but that is going to remain a closely guarded secret. Simply put, it's for her safety, as much as mine - Can't have you lot trying to steal her away from under my nose now, can I ;-) ?!

    Will keep you all informed through this channel. Thanks again, folks!

    Pooch

    [This message has been edited by PoochJD (edited 30-11-2000).]
     
  9. RobT

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    Why don't you go in when it's quiet and place a pre-order/order for a classy DVD? More chance to chat other than "That will be £19.99 please. Thanks".

    Just make sure it not something dodgy like "Clockwork Orange" or "Dirty Debbie does a dozen!", nerdy like a Sci-Fi flick, or too artsy. Suggestions anyone?

    Good luck and hopefully no-one else from this forum has tracked her down and got there first (taking advantage of her staff perks - ooh err missus!).

    Cheers
     
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    Why don't you tell her that you don't even own a DVD player and you've just been buying the discs for a chance to talk to her.

    That should do it.
     
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    First things first, Try picking up a VHS moive tape and ask her does she recommend it if she says yes forget it.
     
  12. PoochJD

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    Well,

    I finally did it! I wrote down my feelings in a short letter, for the woman in question, double-checked that she wasn't wearing any engagement or wedding rings, and then handed the letter to her personally, after purchasing "Shakespeare In Love".

    Have given her my phone number, and now just have to be very patient - the hard part! As for the person who suggested that I find out if she's into DVD or VHS, her preference doesn't bother me. Hell, I still use VHS for recording stuff from TV to keep permanently. Anyway, I'm more interested in her, than the way she watches films! :)

    Thanks again, for your advice. Shall keep you informed, when I know the result.

    Pooch
     
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    Hehe, I liked the bit about Girls liking being chatted up! Nice. Maybe I'll do a survey around the office on that one...

    Personally I wouldn't bother myself. The number of times I've tried is rather limited, and the even more limited number of successes has proved it just isn't worth the hassle. But That's Just Me Of Course!!

    I'm so stuck in my ways now I just can't get my head around how girlies just don't seem to find Big Boys Toys (Motorbikes, Home Cinema, Computers, HiFi, etc) as fascinating as I do.

    Just as well - I can't abide not being allowed to buy the things *I* want to.

    d:))

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  14. tee

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    Make sure you do keep us informed [​IMG]

    BTW what did you write in the letter? Did you not actually speak to her and ask her out?

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    as Nike have been quoting for years, 'just do it' just talk to her, what's the worst that could happen? (i bet £5 your thinking "she could hear me").

    Seriously, I liked a friends twin sister for about 4 years, and didn't say anything to her, over a year ago we started going out and now I'm engaged to her. It turns out that she had liked me all that time too.

    for all you know she could be thinking that same about you.

    good luck!
     
  16. PoochJD

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    Tee asked: "BTW what did you write in the letter? Did you not actually speak to her and ask her out?"

    Well, for those who want to know, I wrote this letter to her. I didn't speak to her, and physically ask her out, because we were at her work place - a large record store, in town. So, I didn't want to embarass her. Anyway, this is what I wrote:

    Dear P_____,
    Hi! My name's Jon, and I've seen you in _____ a couple of times. We've also briefly spoken when I've purchased DVD's recently. Since I first saw you about a week ago, I find myself constantly thinking of you. With flowing red locks, that remind me of a sunset, passionate eyes, and the face and body of an angel, you are an exceptionally attractive young woman!
    I hope this won't sound impolite, but I was wondering if you would like to meet up one day (after work perhaps) and go for a quiet drink or a bite to eat? Somewhere quiet where we can sit down and get to know one another a little more?
    My home phone number is: _____ and you can call me whenever's convenient for you. Whatever your answer is, I promise to keep this a private matter, for I don't want you to feel uncomfortable or embarrassed in any way, especially if you see me shopping in ______ again.
    Thank You for reading my letter, and I hope you will contact me again in the near future! Bye for now,

    ____


    Well, there you have it - the almost uncensored version, at least! For obvious reasons, various personal details have been removed.

    Will write again soon.

    Pooch
     
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    DONT write a letter, regardless of if your are a nutter or not this letter will make her think that.

    When I worked at WH Smiths lots of the female staff got letter and even flowers from mystery men and they were ALL scared ****less even if a couple did turn out to be quite nice blokes.

    What I would do is not make it obvious to start with. Just carry on shopping there and speak to her each time you get the chance. If the shop is not too busy she will apreciate a chat as work in shops gets boring quickly. Think of the tme of year and ask her how busy she has been, then ask if she is looking forward to xmas and if she has anything special planned. You HAVE to try to find out if she is attatched already. Once this is don you can then just politley say that you WOULD LIKE to take her our for a xmas drink and would she care to join you.

    Make her feel wanted and special but do not pester or be too over the top
     
  18. miketango75

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    Pooch,

    Please be careful with this letter thing. It would be advisable for you to actually speak to her and explain the reasons why you wrote the letter. I'm obviously not sure of your intentions but don't write a stream of letters.
    I have dealt with women who've received loads of letters from strangers. Firstly they get very upset and secondly it easily constitutes as harrassment.

    Pooch, go and talk to her, that way you know where you stand. Good luck matey.
     
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    I didn't want to say it before but I agree completly with whats been said recently, that's why I asked if you'd actually talked to her. You HAVE to talk to her otherwise how will she know if she'd like to go out with you?

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    whoo..sending letters is a baaad idea.
    It either scared her ****less or gave her a good laff..Wish I'd seen this earlier...

    Your best course of action now is to apologise for any embarassment you may have caused. In person, I might add.

    The best way of getting to talk to someone who works in a shop is NOT to talk to them about the things she works with all day. She probably doesn't give a **** about DVD.

    It's hard, but eye contact and smiles will do most good in a situation like this. At least now you have something to talk about to her! You could try to pass it off as a horrendous, misguided mistake?

    You have, though, at the very least confirmed a stereotype for me!
     
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    Speaking with a great deal of experience [​IMG], I'd say that the best approach is always to be yourself and be honest.
    If you have a problem with nerves - and I probably would - then have a couple of pints first to loosen your tongue, plus a breath mint, and then go for it. Don't think about it too much - just do it.
    Worked for me. No matter how plain you are, if you approach a beautiful woman with a playful but genuine attitude, then you're more likely to succeed.
    Just read down the thread a bit and got to the bit where you wrote a note.
    Sorry but this is a bad idea. If you haven't got the courage to talk to her, do you think she would have the courage to phone you?
    Ain't gonna happen. You have to have big balls and talk to her first.

    [This message has been edited by Blade (edited 04-12-2000).]
     
  22. PoochJD

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    Hi Again,

    Have read everyone else's comments, and it appears that you all believe that the "letter" was the wrong thing to do. Well, I still stand by my letter, but I wasn't planning to simply just wait for her to call, for days and days. I'm not totally inhuman, guys. ;-)

    I am hoping to go back in to the store where she works, and speak to her politely, and quietly, about it. Once again, Thanks for all the help!

    You must all think I'm one majorly-big nutcase to do this?!

    Pooch
     
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    YEAP! [​IMG]
     
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    I just re-read my old message and Didn't realise what a bitch I sounded!
    Many apologies...this was not my intention.
    Anyway, here is a true story, make of it what you will..

    Many years ago, I felt the same sort of way about a girl that worked in my local library (stop sniggering at the back). We never actually exchanged words, but, boy, there was many a meaningfull glance exchanged.

    The end of term was fast approaching and I knew I had to act quickly.

    I chose my moment well.
    Just before closing.
    The clock was ticking.

    I checked my books out.
    Smiled.
    Then, I asked, as sophisticatedly as I could at the time, "what time she finished?" and, maybe, "...a coffee would be in order?"

    As I said this, her assistant suddenly appeared.
    From the look he gave me, there was no doubt that this was BOYFRIEND.

    He didn't actually say, "is this creep bothering you?", but the sentiment was there.
    She looked as though she was about to laugh, looked at the floor and said, she was "busy" and maybe some "..other time?"

    I felt so humiliated. As I walked away, I risked a glance back and they were laughing.
    AT ME!

    The point is this. If I could live my life over, I would do exactly the same thing. You never know unless you try. Since that utter humiliation, there have been many others. Some worse, some better, but also many successes.
    And this success makes all the humiliation worth it in the end.

    Go on Pooch. All is not lost. Laugh off the letter. Tell her you just want to be friends. You never know.

    Good Luck
     
  25. PoochJD

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    Well,

    It has all ended in flames, for me at least. :-(

    Went into the store today to pick up "Cyrano De Bergerac" on Region 2 DVD, and managed to catch her at a relatively quiet time of business. Whilst paying for said title, I asked her if she had a chance to read my letter. She said that yes she had, but (alas) she already has a boyfriend.

    My mouth dropped and my heart sunk, (metaphorically speaking, of course)! I couldn't believe that this angel had already been taken!

    Admittedly, she did tell me she was flattered, and I also apologised for causing her any embarrassement. Sadly, that's where this story ends.

    So, there we have it. Once again, for about the sixth time in my life, I get a rejection, and once again, another year goes by without a girlfriend! I know I'm no "Hercules" or "Adonis", but I'd like to think that what I lack in looks, I can at least make up for in personality.

    Bye for now.

    A very disheartened,

    Pooch
     
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    Pooch dear boy,

    don't get down hearted she's probably a VHS nut who in her spare time likes to rant on about her collection of Dads Army videos.

    Maybe you should think about posting something for all the girls who read this bulletin board. Hey we could all meet up round mine for a party.

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    And what is wrong with Dad's Army?

    You'll not find a funnier series.
     
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    6 times is nothing! There will be many more!
    Use each one as a learning experience.
    Remember, "what doesn't kill me, makes me stronger"

    I am not going to even mention Dad's Army.
     
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    "Dad Army"? - When's it coming out on DVD????
    Pure class and timeless (those that need their fix UK Gold play a couple of hours of it at every weekend).

    PoochJD - Never mind one day, spontaneously, when you least expect it (and most likely a workmate rather than someone in a shop or bar).

    Cheers
     
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    Pooch,

    Sorry to hear that matey! I've been following your progress quite avidly (well its been better than Eastenders anyway!!)

    Don't worry, you'll find someone when you least expect it and when you're not 'looking'! Just remember, dn't be over eager 'cause most women get scared by that at a first meeting!!

    Where did Dad's Army come in to this - stupid boy Pike!!! Sorry but thats the only ine I remember of it and I've avoided it like the plague on UK Gold.

    By the way where's that party....... [​IMG]
     
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