next big test is a holiday , I was never a massive drinker on holiday as I didn't like to be out of control in an unfamiliar area , so we shall see what that brings .....
Im fine mate, thanks for asking. Just feel uneasy about drinking.What do you mean by not feeling right , physically or mentally , hope your ok .....
How did it go with your friends who were drinking and you weren't?Yes the chest drain was very unpleasant , milestones / baby steps seem to be working for me , first one was Xmas , I would normally get at least 2-3 bottles of whisky which by now would be gone , I actively told people not to buy me any , Xmas day , I drove so I couldn’t drink , New Year’s Eve has never really appealed to me so that wasn’t an issue , got 2 more tomorrow , a family meal where I would normally drink but I won’t be as I’ll drive again and after that , lads I used to go out drinking with have asked me to go out tomorrow afternoon , I have said I will but not told them I won’t be drinking , should raise a few eyebrows.
Have you talked to your doctor about this ?
I reckon I was spending at least £300 / month on alcohol , utterly ridiculous when you look at it with a clear head.
I didn’t actively drink drive but I very much suspect I will have been over the limit more than once the next morning
I’ve started meditating , that might sound weird but it’s actually very calming.
Anyway , I’m rambling , good luck and please let us know how you are getting on .....
Thank youThese are the exact two things I came to terms with before giving up.
WeeScottishLass, the biggest thing for me was actually reaching a point in my life where I wanted to give up and it sounds like you have reached this point. Keep at it and keep talking about it
it went fine , im past the point of wanting to drink although part of me does miss it , when that happens I think back to the times I was so out of control that anything literally could have happened , I also see things in the news that are drink fuelled and that really scares me when you see some of the violence involved , 1 punch is all it takes ......How did it go with your friends who were drinking and you weren't?
Wow! I'm so impressed though that you were able to keep company with others who were drinking!
So I have every respect for you to be able to be around drunk people or in those environments- I honestly couldn't do it.
I know that until l have learnt some reasonable coping strategies, I won't and can't risk putting myself into environments where I'd be really vulnerable to it.
I've been an addict for a long time but it's drink which has always caused me the most problems for me and those around me.
But yes, I've talked to my Dr and CPN and psychiatrist about it, thank you
I'm well known in my local medical profession for being an addict and alcoholic as I also have a borderline personality disorder, which largely drives my addictions.
I have attended a few organisations related to drinking in the past but was never prepared to give it up- I always hoped I could learn to control it and drink mindfully.
But I can't.
It was only ending up in hospital and being so close to death that it really frightened me.
It's weird though coz whilst I don't want to drink at all, I do miss it
No you are absolutely right in that I will never be able to have just a few drinks- it's taken me a long time to get to this point (not quite as long as you though) and yes, you have to absolutely "want" to give up otherwise it simply doesn't work.it went fine , im past the point of wanting to drink although part of me does miss it , when that happens I think back to the times I was so out of control that anything literally could have happened , I also see things in the news that are drink fuelled and that really scares me when you see some of the violence involved , 1 punch is all it takes ......
only you can stop , and you will only stop if you want to , I am amazed I am doing so well to be honest , having drank for 30 years solid , anything upto a bottle of whisky or 10 plus cans a day !!!
to be honest you sound as though you will never be able to cope with just having a few drinks , obviously its only my opinion and I don't mean to upset you....
do you have family ? , if you do , can you talk to them ? ......
best of luck , and if ive poked about to much please let me know .....
No you are absolutely right in that I will never be able to have just a few drinks- it's taken me a long time to get to this point (not quite as long as you though) and yes, you have to absolutely "want" to give up otherwise it simply doesn't work.
It's interesting that you still miss it like me, despite feeling the way that you do- must be part of the recovery process which apparently goes on for 2 years
I'm not really close to family so it's mental health professionals who get the brunt and chaos
Definitely remembering the trouble I got into is a helpful reminder to stay away from it!
Why do you feel that you could and should have lost the lot?I say miss it , but then I when I think back to what I was actually like , I quickly realise that I am very very lucky to have what I have to be honest , could and probably should have lost the lot to be truthful ......
the amount I have drank over the years when I look back scares me silly, I should have no liver left to be honest , plus all the times I may well have been over the limit albeit unintentionally is no joke either , how I m still married is beyond me , and also how I still have a job is a mystery .......Why do you feel that you could and should have lost the lot?
Only share if you feel comfortable- no pressure
I used to think the same as this, but you need to also give yourself some credit. You've 'managed' to stay married and you've held down a job, not anyone else, you.the amount I have drank over the years...... how I m still married is beyond me , and also how I still have a job is a mystery .......