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Can a heterosexual Man think another man is attractive?

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  1. MacReady

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    Had an interesting discussion in the office this morning and thought I would see what everyone on heres views were.

    As I was talking to one of the ladies on the helpdesk I noticed her George Clooney calender and commented that he was a good looking bloke and had nice eyes...the reaction from everyone else in the room was amazing !!! The two hetero men in the room said they were worried about me and that it was not right for a man to even admit that he thought another man was good looking, never mind 'had nice eyes' ! Most of the women agreed that I was right but said they found it slightly odd that I had said it. One women said that if someone is good looking then that is that....it dosn't matter if you are male, female, gay or straight you should be able to say it!...and the one gay guy in the office at the time agreed with me and said that it just meant I was a lot more honest and open and not held back by stereotypical male macho-ness.

    Women seem to be able to say quite openly that another women is good looking but why is it so 'wrong' for men to do so?
     
  2. PoochJD

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    Hi,

    I could say that another man was attractive (or, at least not as ugly as some of the other men in the wordl! :rotfl: ), but I personally, prefere to simply not say anything about their physical looks other than something very generic, e.g. "I can see why Mr X is fancied by so many women/men/whomever".

    If a man commented to me, that another bloke was attractive, I wouldn't think he was making anything other than a simple comment. I guess everyone's different, and some men can talk and discuss emotional stuff easily, whilst other men see it as a sign of weakness.

    Just my opinion, mind...


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  3. Flimber

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    Good-looking, yes. Attractive, no. :)

    Mike.
     
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    Don't see a problem with it myself.

    I'm more than happy to say a man is good looking, or has a great body even - it's just stating a fact, after all.
     
  5. MacReady

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    That is what one of the blokes at work said...there is a difference between saying someone was good looking and 'finding' someone attractive!

    He said if you say they are good looking you are just stating a fact. If you say you think they are attractive you are showing personal feelings towards them so must hold some suppressed homosexual tendancies.

    The gay guy said this was rubbish as he often said he thought women was attractive but had no interest in them at all.
     
  6. Mr.D

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    I find certain types of wood furnishings attractive ...doesn't mean I want to take them out for dinner.
     
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    I think the word 'attractive' is too open to interpretation. As you have found, some people will take that to mean you are attracted to them.

    Personally I'd happy to say if someone was good looking, but I doubt I'd use the word attractive.
     
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    Probably the two guys in the office are probably not secure in their own sexual preferences, and so put you down.

    Of course a guy can comment on an other guys looks e.g. you would not say Timothy Spall would be up for the role of James Bond as he is not good looking enough. Or if he was alive Marty Feldman because of his eyes.
    It usually the one that shout the most have tendencies the other way.
     
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    Amen- if another chap is good looking in my opinion I'll bloody well say so if I choose.
     
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    To his face in a bar on a Saturday night ? Could cause trouble. :D
     
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    Yes
     
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    Of course, attractive could imply attraction. Good looking is a bit more innocuous. Remember on Men Behaving Badly when Deborah made a remark about a TV actresses breasts? That caused no end of amusement to Tony & Gary
     
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    I'd comment on a guys looks no danger...


    Steve, you're not very good looking:laugh:

    jk

    You have a such an attractive beard:blush:
     
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    I rarely hear men commenting on other mens looks - not like women who are happy to discuss men AND women in detail - good and bad!! :D

    I wouldn't think twice about it if they did however, I would just assume that they were stating a fact. Unless of course they said..........phwoar he's a bit of a hunk.....than I might start to wonder :laugh:
     
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    Are you dissing my beard? :mad:
     
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    I do not think there is any issue with say another man is attractive - though saying you think they are attractive does make it more personal and therefore prone to people believing that you are attracted to them (whilst not homo/bisexual I wouldnt really care if someone thought I was attracted to another man or not anyway).

    Whilst I dont make a habit of commenting on another mans looks I would tend to say they are good looking rather than attractive - godda love social conditioning.
     
  17. Bristol Pete

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    I have no problem saying this.

    Pete.
     
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    If it is context to the conversation I'm having then I would possibly go as far as "He's a good looking bloke" (As I often do say that when looking into the mirror...).

    After all, we all find the simple basics attractive, regardless of our gender or sexuality. ie high cheekbones, clear skin, me...
     
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    I don't think any of you should have a problem admitting I'm gorgeous.... :)
     
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    :laugh:

    I tended to make comments on the lines Sean did. A mate of mine was a good looking fella and a real ladykiller. I would say "I wouldn't let my girlfriend near him". Believe me, you wouldn't! Never once saw him fail to charm the pants off any fem. Lucky bleeder! :mad: :devil:

    In my old age I tend to be less worried than in my youth. When you've survived a serious illness, you tend to be a little more 'day to day' and when you have three kids, who gives a monkeys if people think you might be 'a bit dodgy'. Cos' you quite obviously aren't............. ;)
     
  21. MacReady

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    Well ssaid that man :thumbsup: Two kids here and a Wife who loves me to bits ( I think...lol).

    I suppose you do get to a stage in life where you start to think 'what the hell...why should I think about the words that come out of my mouth before I say them ;) :devil:

    The gay guy and myself have been winding the others up all day by asking each other out for drinks and winking at each other...plus I bought a George Clooney calender at lunch (as well as the new NIN cd :thumbsup: ) and have it hung up on the wall behind my desk.

    I think it does boil down to an individuals interpretation of the words rather than the actual meaning behind them.
     
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    I didn't realise we were mates!!! :cool:
     
  23. MacReady

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    Can someone go round to Shodans house and take all the mirrors away before he overdoses on his own amazing good looks :rotfl:
     
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    I don't need mirrors, I'm THAT good looking... Hee hee hee! If only I wasn't losing my hair and getting fat as well.... :-( Oh how the mighty have fallen...
     
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    You're not bald and fat.

    You are virile and cuddly. A lethal combination.... ;)
     
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    Can you walk up to any pretty looking girl standing at the bar, and whisper "show us yer ***s darlin'? Without getting a slap round the face? ;) He could! :eek: If so, Shodan, you are he! :smashin:







    NOT! :D
     
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    I trust you are no longer friends. I mean, who needs a prehistoric moron like that as a mate eh? :rotfl: ;)

    Pete.
     
  28. MacReady

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    Isn't it amazing though how many women constantly complain that they can't find 'the right man' and that most men are pigs and yet they will quite happily put up with someone who speaks to them like that just because he is a good looking bloke !!!!!

    Bloody women :suicide:
     
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    I have no problem in describing another man as good looking or attractive.......I do however have a problem describing another man as more attractive than me. :D
     
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    Haven't seen him for years. And you're right. His regular girlfriend was a real looker and a really sweet person. It got wearing having to lie to someone like that about his 'antics'. In the end it became too much. Shame, because in other ways he was a great fella.
     

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