Babies... Does it get better?

So sorry to hear about your loss. So much that was bewildering and stressful will be mitigated by experience if you have a second. You’ll both know when or if the time is right to try again.

Pleased things are going well for you, it sounds like you are getting into the groove of things, including the little one!
 
On the whole really good thank you. He's two in January and other than early terrible twos he's generally good fun now. He's saying some words and I really look forward to our Sunday morning ride to the park on the mountain bike (he's got a thule yep mini seat).

He has got a slightly weird fetish for pewping in the shower though. Although it's far easier to clean up than in the bath.

My other half found out she was pregnant and the baby was due around March time next year. Unfortunately the baby was lost at the 12 week scan. We're both cool about it though and if anything, there's slight relief. We're still a little undecided on whether to go again or not.
Tough one. The Mrs lost one at 12 weeks a few months before our little one was conceived. Hit us both incredibly hard. Even if you decide it was for the best don't underestimate the impact it can have on you and your other half.

Glad to hear the young one is doing good though, even if he is pooing in the shower.

Our little one is two next week (**** it's gone fast). She is a dream. Full sentences, counting to 20, singing songs etc. Moving up to toddlers at nursery.
 
On the whole really good thank you. He's two in January and other than early terrible twos he's generally good fun now. He's saying some words and I really look forward to our Sunday morning ride to the park on the mountain bike (he's got a thule yep mini seat).

He has got a slightly weird fetish for pewping in the shower though. Although it's far easier to clean up than in the bath.

My other half found out she was pregnant and the baby was due around March time next year. Unfortunately the baby was lost at the 12 week scan. We're both cool about it though and if anything, there's slight relief. We're still a little undecided on whether to go again or not.
Snap, our first is turning 2 in December and we've just gone through the same at 11 weeks. We are ok with the loss but it was the pure unknown nature of what was happening when that went down. We still aren't sure if it's normal but she ended up in A&E twice as a precaution and we wish our midwife had better prepared us for what was to come once a scan confirmed the situation.

Our first is coming in to her own though, she's a total toddler having her tantrums but we find them funny now just how ridiculous they usually are over stupid things. The fact she can communicate is just making everything easier, she's starting to indicate she needs the potty so is getting more time out of her nappy that she's loving, asking for food and leading us to things she wants.
 
So sorry to hear about your loss. So much that was bewildering and stressful will be mitigated by experience if you have a second. You’ll both know when or if the time is right to try again.

Pleased things are going well for you, it sounds like you are getting into the groove of things, including the little one!
Yes, i think I'm getting there now! haha
Tough one. The Mrs lost one at 12 weeks a few months before our little one was conceived. Hit us both incredibly hard. Even if you decide it was for the best don't underestimate the impact it can have on you and your other half.

Glad to hear the young one is doing good though, even if he is pooing in the shower.

Our little one is two next week (**** it's gone fast). She is a dream. Full sentences, counting to 20, singing songs etc. Moving up to toddlers at nursery.
Sorry to hear this. Like you say, it can have affects you may not be aware of. My other half suffered with terrible morning sickness for the duration and if anything, she said that was the most annoying thing - all that illness for nothing. Pleased to hear your little one is doing so well...it's certainly a cool age.
Snap, our first is turning 2 in December and we've just gone through the same at 11 weeks. We are ok with the loss but it was the pure unknown nature of what was happening when that went down. We still aren't sure if it's normal but she ended up in A&E twice as a precaution and we wish our midwife had better prepared us for what was to come once a scan confirmed the situation.

Our first is coming in to her own though, she's a total toddler having her tantrums but we find them funny now just how ridiculous they usually are over stupid things. The fact she can communicate is just making everything easier, she's starting to indicate she needs the potty so is getting more time out of her nappy that she's loving, asking for food and leading us to things she wants.
It's certainly an experience and kind of hits home how lucky we are to have one healthy child born. Some people never get that far.

Potty training next for us all then...
 
It's certainly an experience and kind of hits home how lucky we are to have one healthy child born. Some people never get that far.

Potty training next for us all then...
This is our thoughts, we have one and she's not going anywhere, and we didn't struggle or need assistance this time either so there's no reason to believe there's any major issues. Of there is we still have the one.

We've been trying the potty for several months already. We just stick her on it when she has her nappy off and if she goes she goes, if she doesn't she doesn't. Whenever she's gone it's been praises and high fives then she loves escorting it to the toilet to say bye bye and is usually rewarded by some time out of her nappy as she won't be going again that soon. If she doesn't go there's no judgement but the nally is back on soon after. Over this long weekend away she's coming on and now takes herself off to the potty and we've pretty much had her out of a nappy for many hours at a time without incident.

No idea if this is how it's meant to be done but it's getting results and working for us so I don't care. Finding more and more that mumsnet is a dangerous place for advice unless that advice is "they are all different".
 
Potty training highlight tonight, she managed to poo in her pants, then on the way to toilet it fell out, was promptly squished into the carpet by her mum who stood in it…. Whilst in the microbrewery up the road 😂

Many apologies and carpet cleaner later I finished my pint, bought all the expensive beers they had and left.
 
I'm sorry, I shouldn't laugh, but that's hilarious!

Having once got woken up at 7 in the morning following a very heavy night by my youngest proudly holding her fully loaded potty in my face, I don't remember potty training with any fondness.

There was also the time that the swim nappy failed in the jacuzzi at the leisure centre, but we're not admitting to that one, as it led to the entire play pool being evacuated..
 
Anyone doubting their parenting that hasn't listened to Rob Beckett and Josh widdicombes parenting hell podcast I would absolutely highly recommend giving it a listen. Low effort podcast from them that started to document how crap their parenting was in lockdown with guests who are also having as badder time as they were.

We find it very reassuring that what we are dealing with and doing is normal and it often touches on taboo subjects like miscarriage, infertility and depression but they handle it very tactfully for a comedy podcast. Turns out even with fame and fortune everyone finds it hard, I'd suggest isy suttie then Ellis James as a pair of episodes along with the tom parry one to hear people living a horrific existence with small children that they seem to think is a normal way of living.
 
Anyone doubting their parenting that hasn't listened to Rob Beckett and Josh widdicombes parenting hell podcast I would absolutely highly recommend giving it a listen. Low effort podcast from them that started to document how crap their parenting was in lockdown with guests who are also having as badder time as they were.

We find it very reassuring that what we are dealing with and doing is normal and it often touches on taboo subjects like miscarriage, infertility and depression but they handle it very tactfully for a comedy podcast. Turns out even with fame and fortune everyone finds it hard, I'd suggest isy suttie then Ellis James as a pair of episodes along with the tom parry one to hear people living a horrific existence with small children that they seem to think is a normal way of living.

We went to the live show in Manchester. Well worth it.
 
I'm big strong guy self assured guy and that little boy broke me to pieces from the very moment I laid eye's on him.

He continued to break me in ways I didn't know was possible as I was constantly petrified about me not being good enough to ensure his future. I had anxiety (something i didn’t have a clue about before) about how I could continue to protect him when I wasn't around...

And from being that broken shell of a man he built me again... starting with a smile, then a giggle, then raspberries and burbled nonsense into a stronger, better, happier man than I even thought possible... he has shaped me and continues to shape me into a much better version of the man that created him and that's enabled me to help shape him into something that far exceeds anything I have ever or will be...

They're hard... hardest thing you'll ever do but they will give you so much back in so many ways and it'll happen sooner than you think...

Honestly these two little people (yep I did it twice) are by far the best and biggest achievements of my life and they impress and astonish me on a daily basis as I watch them grow into young adults.
 
Yep, would echo the above.
Our eldest is 23 this year, and after university now works for PGL - the kids activity company. We only see her a few times over the main season from February to November, but she's normally back for Christmas. She spends her days zipping around on power boats, or throwing kids off zip lines, or just being "Mum" to a group of kids. It's been fantastic watching her grow up from a timid little toddler to a self assured young woman.

Our youngest is at University in Ambleside, just going into the third year of her animal conservation course. She spends her life in the lakes, studying, working and just enjoying the scenery and lifestyle. She seems pretty settled with her boyfriend, yet it was surely only yesterday we were rushing over to hospital to the delivery suite.

Sure there's been bumps along the way, and no doubt more to come, but we will always love and be proud of them. I really cannot imagine our lives without them.
 
Honestly, after the "breaking in period" I tried to convince the wife we should have a football team...

She promptly told me to fudge off and we settled on 2 as we were fortunate that they were both happy and healthy...

Mine are both young adults now and while I miss them both thinking I am a superhuman and this amazing person who can literally do anything, I love seeing them grow and become people in their own right just as much...

One bit of advice I was given, was to always listen to your littluns at every age and about whatever they are interested in... engage with them and be interested... because if they can talk to you about small insignificant things they're more likely to talk to you about the big significant things too... and if they stop talking to you, you already know something is up...!!!

Enjoy the ride guys its an amazing privilege you've been bestowed...
 
Potty training highlight tonight, she managed to poo in her pants, then on the way to toilet it fell out, was promptly squished into the carpet by her mum who stood in it…. Whilst in the microbrewery up the road 😂

Many apologies and carpet cleaner later I finished my pint, bought all the expensive beers they had and left.
We are in full swing with potty training. It’s gone a lot better than we hoped. Within 24 hours he was proudly telling us when he needs to sit on the potty and loving the reactions he got from me and the wife.

We’re 2 weeks in and Wees have come easy but he’s still having trouble telling us when he needs a poo but we’re getting there with minimal accidents. He did however decide to run away straight after a poo the other night leaving a trail of small turds on the carpet. Joys of parenthood.

Think the problem now is the novelty is wearing off and he won’t stop playing to sit on the potty. He rather dance around holding it in.

As other have said it’s bloody hard work but he had me in stitches when he turned to me half way through dinner and all cute, looked me dead in the eyes and just said “bye bye daddy, see you later” out of no where. Think he knows something I don’t.
 
We've been so lucky with potty training, we casually introduced the potty at nappy change time at about 18 months and if she went she went and got praised an constantly reinforced for it. At 2 she had it at home but still had accidents at day care, but within a couple of months she cracked it and now is dry through naps too. Our current fight now at 2½ is trying to encourage her off the potty and on to the toilet, she's doing well with wees but outright won't poop on our toilets. We've now decided no more potty in the living areas and she needs to use it in the bathroom, that was met with the usual 2 year old going absolutely mental that she couldnt stare at a kitchen cupboard while pooing.

What we've found though, like most things with tiny people, it's not linear progression. Just as you think she's got it there's a set back or some form of regression, she'll sometimes fight using the toilet or potty despite obviously needing to go. Had a poo incident at kindy this week that spurred on trying to enforce the bathroom rule and obviously went a bit hard the first 48 hours, now we've relaxed she's absolutely fine going in the bathroom again.
 
Think the problem now is the novelty is wearing off and he won’t stop playing to sit on the potty. He rather dance around holding it in.
Our daughter still has the occasional accident because she's too busy watching TV or playing in the garden and can't make it in time. She's 7 :rolleyes:

Kids are just stupid :rotfl:
 
nice thread. How you doing OP?

has anyone got external help like a nanny to take the edge off things.
 
nice thread. How you doing OP?

has anyone got external help like a nanny to take the edge off things.
No nanny or family helping us, and now number 2 is coming in March. Luckily my parents will be joining us for a few weeks to finally meet miss 3 year old and the new born when it arrives, but after they head back to the UK it's going to get hard again. Then coming will make the older one feel more loved and special when the second one turns up which we hope will be a nice distraction from the reality of living with a newborn. Only 2-3 years to go until baby 2 gets to the point we are at with baby 1 where it's suddenly a lot more fun with them.
 
nice thread. How you doing OP?

has anyone got external help like a nanny to take the edge off things.

He's 3 in January... Things are so much better now. He's talking and on the whole is a lot of fun. He has his moments where he won't get dressed or go in his car seat and I lose my mind but I'm sure most kids do similar.

But yeah, that first 12 months wasn't that fun for me. I still wonder now how I would feel if I had to go through it again now I know what to expect.

How is everyone else doing?
 
Our little one was 3 in November.

She’s an absolute bundle of joy. Obviously does 3 year old stuff (at times won’t get dressed won’t eat what we tell her to), but she’s brilliantly behaved.

We can take her anywhere, I’m 20 mins from a restaurant booking in Estonia and she takes it all in her stride.

First year is hard work but she is 200% worth it.
 
3rd grandchild arrived a week before xmas, beautiful baby girl, first child for my son (daughter has two), grandchildren are like having new children of your own but they come with a better returns policy 😉
 

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