Anyone Have an Elderly Disabled Parent? Need Mattress/Bed Advice!

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  1. Suave

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    Hi All,

    My elderly disabled mother has been really suffering for quite some time & I see her getting weaker & frailer each day. It breaks my heart & despite being a grown man, I cannot stop the tears flowing full force as I feel so redundant as she is in so much pain & distress.

    She has a number of health issues & has extreme difficulty walking or moving & also has very bad osteoporosis/osteoarthritis in various parts of her body. Lately, her right shoulder has now completely seized up & they cannot operate as she is just too old & will not survive any operation.

    Because of this, she has great difficulty sleeping comfortably as her body aches all over but her shoulder & legs are the worst. I need to buy her a new bed so she can sleep downstairs now but I just do not know what is the best type of mattress to get for her in particular & generally for the elderly/disabled.

    I was going to go for just memory foam (same as Latex?) but have heard they get too hot & the standards/quality vary enormously. Went to a few shops but did not really get much help from the sales people & googling & trying to learn about mattresses has just got be confused somewhat!

    I know there are combination spring & memory foam mattresses now but do not know if they are actually any good or just marketing hype to hike the price up! I cannot take my mother to the shops to try any out as she is just too frail.

    If anyone can help or give advice I sure would be mightily grateful.

    Many Thanks,

    Suave!
     
  2. Semiskimmed1976

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    Firstly, I'm sorry to hear about your mum's situation, having never been in the same situation I don't envy having you to watch her suffer.

    Anyway although I'm not elderly, I am disabled, so I have some aspects that made it difficult to sleep in certain positions.

    I brought a memory foam mattress a few years ago, and the comfort they provide has been far and away the best, because it contours around your body rather than leaving parts of your body to take the most pressure.

    If it's possible, take your mum to a local shop to try some out - I think this would be the best way for your mum to know if it's best for her? I wouldn't recommend a memory foam topper, although they are cheaper, my mum has one and I can feel the difference when comparing to mine.

    Oh and to concerns about it being to hot, I've never noticed this - but others I know have said this is the case, but something you get used too.
     
  3. Suave

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    Hi,

    Many thanks for the info! May I ask, did you consider Latex also & if so, how different were they from each other?

    Have you noticed any pain relief (as I have read) from your memory foam mattress? My mother is very temperature sensitive so I need to take the heat retention into consideration as well as the smell as she also has respiratory & heart issues.

    I wanted to ask, is it true that a memory foam mattress is rendered useless if it suffers liquid spill? Some times we have to feed her in bed & accidents do happen. Also she can have bladder issues & I have been told that if that happens, there is no way to remove the smell & the mattress is ruined?

    As she has to get up multiple times a night to go to the bathroom, I need mattress that will allow this - I am slightly concerned that a memory mattress may "wallow" or not offer enough resistance to her efforts at getting up - she can only exert minimal force to get out of bed due to her age & medical conditions - do you think this will be an issue?

    Thanks big time,

    Suave!
     
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    My wifes mother is in a similar position regarding her health and likewise sleeping is a problem.
    She stayed with us about 10 years ago and found it really uncomfortable and painful even to sleep in a normal bed, we ended up stuffing cushions under the top of the mattress to raise the top part of her body up, which helped a bit.

    She cant travel anymore because of her condition (she lives in Norway) but when we visit her she now has an orthopedic bed, which you can alter the shape by an electric control to suit the most comfortable position, she swears by it.

    These are sold here, so might be worth investigating, but would consult her doctor first to find out if this sort of bed would help her condition.

    Good luck and i hope she gets some relief
     
  5. Jenn

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    I don't know if this would be recommended for your mum's situation so maybe it would be worth asking a doctor or specialist about it but when I was a teenager, I used to have backache a lot and my mum sourced a foam cross cut surface mattress for me.
    It was by far the best mattress I've ever had.

    It's this kind of things
    Cross cut foam mattresses
     
  6. Nozzer17

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    Hi there,
    My father in law is disabled and recently has been having a nightmare choosing a good mattress. 2 years ago he purchased a 'Relyon' mattress and it was totally rubbish, he was far too hot and the foam itself actually split down the side of the bed. He contacted Benson's beds where he purchased it and eventually got a complete refund.
    He's been looking at replacements and the best advice is to take your mother to 'test' laying down on them. Latex is a good bet for temperature management however is expencive. He eventually chose a 'charcool' mattress from mattressman and sleeps much better than with the relyon however it is very soft so it very much down to the individual.

    Hope this helps a bit :)
     
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    I didn't really sleep in pain, but I wasn't able to sleep on my back without sticking loads of pillows under my legs to support me - but with the memory mattress, I find I might have to prop them up with a pillow, but nothing as drastic as before - so imo it's more comfortable.

    I realise your mum's age, but is it possible for your GP to refer you to an occupational therapist / physiotherapist who can help guide you and your mum for the best option - possibly funded for you as well, because some of the specialised equipment will be expensive.

    Either way, I hope you get some help from here and find the best option to improve your mums sleep!
     
  9. Courtjezter

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    I recommend this site, the owner was a big contributor on the money saving expert forum.

    The site and info opened my eyes to the nefarious world of mattresses.

    Rather than trying a bed in shop, which doesnt give you an accurate feel for what it would be like to sleep on a mattress for 8 hours a night. Try to get a mattress from somewhere that offers for you to try the mattress out for a few nights then lets you return it.
     
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  10. Suave

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    Hi Jenn,

    Many thanks for that link - I will definitely speak to the people at DLF & see what they say & will try to somehow get my mother over to them although it will be a challenge. I just need to make sure I get good advice as the wrong mattress may cause all sorts of issues & may increase her pain & discomfort.



    Hi,

    I had an OT come round yesterday & she clearly agreed my mother is in bad shape & her sleeping arrangement is unsatisfactory but could not give any advice as to what type of mattress to get as it was not her/their area? She just said, shop around till you find one you like?

    Do I need to get a physiotherapist, chiropractor, osteopath etc or someone else from social services?

    Many thanks all,

    Suave!
     

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