Am I the only one who has little interest in settling down?

Sue Donym

Active Member
That would be hell for me. Imagine bringing up a teenager at retirement age.
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Jammy Smears

Well-known Member
I don't think having a partner or kids is crucial to having a happy fulfilled life. We are social creatures though, having one good friend to share stuff with can be the difference between being lonely and unhappy or not. It's the quality of the people you share your life with not the quantity.

Or get a dog, dogs are awesome.
 

Autumn Rain

Well-known Member
Have you tried online dating OP? It's not for everyone (I can't be bothered with it personally) but if you are looking for someone or even "half" looking, it may be worth a shot. If nothing comes of it, oh well but if it leads to something good then great. There's nothing to lose by trying anyway.
 

crashcris

Distinguished Member
Have you tried online dating OP? It's not for everyone (I can't be bothered with it personally) but if you are looking for someone or even "half" looking, it may be worth a shot. If nothing comes of it, oh well but if it leads to something good then great. There's nothing to lose by trying anyway.
Unless you get catfished.
 

Ruperts slippers

Distinguished Member
I'm having my snip reversed and having another, I'm late 40's now.

If was younger I'd have probably 2 more.

My girls never give me of a minute of bother.

My step daughter was relatively easy too, the odd door slam.
 

stiv674

Well-known Member
I've been single for years, while I like the idea of a relationship, I don't think I could cope with one now, I like the freedom of being single.

My two closest friends are both married and are both controlled to some extent by their wives.
 

Sue Donym

Active Member
Bernie Ecclestone recently became a father again aged 90. That doesn't sit right with me.
Yikes! That is a scary thought. 😱 Each to his/her own I guess.

As to the subject of settling down and/or having children it’s a personal decision and it’s what is right for the individual.

I don’t think people should feel ‘shame’ in not seeking a relationship if they’re comfortable in their own skin. Just because someone isn’t in a relationship doesn’t mean they are not a properly functioning Individual.
 

captainarchive

Distinguished Member
Here are my thoughts. I think one of the main reasons to be alive is to connect with other people and ideally one should try to spend as little of ones life alone as possible. Obviously there's a spectrum to how one connects with another human being but everyone yearns to connect in a deep and strong way with another person at some point in their lives.

As for love, I subscribe to ancient societies who believed in more than one type of love, such as lust, friendship and charitable love. Almost every relationship will go through these different aspects of love, with lust being the one that can easily wane. The key to having a long relationship is developing and sustaining the other two types of love. I also think it's unrealistic to expect our partners to fulfill our every needs, no human being has the breadth of knowledge and experience to completely nourish another person in every way. I also don't believe the main goal in life is to be 'happy'; because life has a way of destroying happiness, if it's not a main goal in life that way a person can be more resilient.
 

Yorkshire toffee

Active Member
I've been single for over ten years now and I'm relatively happy with it. Yes sometimes it can get lonely, but I think I'm too set in my ways now. I'd never rule it out completely, but it would have to be someone really special for me to get in to a relationship.

And for all these older people having children in they're 50s how do they manage it? I'm mid 40's and can hardly raise a smile, let alone anything else 😁
 

Panavision

Distinguished Member
Here are my thoughts. I think one of the main reasons to be alive is to connect with other people and ideally one should try to spend as little of ones life alone as possible. Obviously there's a spectrum to how one connects with another human being but everyone yearns to connect in a deep and strong way with another person at some point in their lives.

As for love, I subscribe to ancient societies who believed in more than one type of love, such as lust, friendship and charitable love. Almost every relationship will go through these different aspects of love, with lust being the one that can easily wane. The key to having a long relationship is developing and sustaining the other two types of love. I also think it's unrealistic to expect our partners to fulfill our every needs, no human being has the breadth of knowledge and experience to completely nourish another person in every way. I also don't believe the main goal in life is to be 'happy'; because life has a way of destroying happiness, if it's not a main goal in life that way a person can be more resilient.

True, especially when you factor in:

Farts.
Smelly poo.
Bad breath.
Body odour.
Unwanted body hair.
Streaks in pants.

:D
 

Trollslayer

Distinguished Member
I moved to Dorset with work five and a half years ago, bought a nice bungalow nearly a year later.
It took a full thirty seconds to know I wanted to live here.
 

deantown

Distinguished Member
I've been single for over ten years now and I'm relatively happy with it. Yes sometimes it can get lonely, but I think I'm too set in my ways now. I'd never rule it out completely, but it would have to be someone really special for me to get in to a relationship.

And for all these older people having children in they're 50s how do they manage it? I'm mid 40's and can hardly raise a smile, let alone anything else 😁

Viagra could be the answer. :D
 

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