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OK, this is going to be hard for me but i need to get some help and answers and not sure where else to turn. I apologise if this post isnt coherent but i didnt get much sleep last night stressing.
I got phone call from my wifes mother at 4pm yesterday asking if i could come home early, she wouldnt say why but that i was needed at home
I got home to find my wife drunk as a skunk. Apparently she has been drinking half a bottle of rum a day for the last year (since our son was born). Yesterday she had drunk a full bottle of rum and was in a mess.
I knew she has had issues in the past but i thought that was behind her. She is a functioning drunk in that she can drink a half bottle and you cant even tell. My son is always well looked after though, apart from yesterday, which must be why she called her mum as she knew she wasnt in a fit state
She had called her mum and admitted she has an issue. We went to the drs last night and they told her to refer herself to the Adaction centre in town. I guess she has done the right thing in admitting there is a problem and looking for help.
She has been very sneaky, taking money from my wallet and hiding rum around the house. She must also have blown around £3k on booze this year, which is the amount we are overdrawn. I have cut down on everything to try and cut down this overdraft (no sky sports, no new clothes, shopping at aldi, cancelled tesco dvd rental and not buying movies any more etc) but we were still struggling. Now i know why!!!
Im not sure what to do. I will stick with her and help her clean herself up but if i cant see her trying i will have to throw her out and bring up my son on my own. I dont want to do this as frankly i dont think i could cope with working 8am 5pm and bringing him up by myself. Especially with him getting up for feeds 3x a night, but at the end of the day he is my special little man and he comes first. He stayed at the wifes mum and dads last night so we could sort out as much as possible. They have been great and offered any support i might need (i get on very well with them). I cannot tell my parents as they will never forgive her. My family is very mentally strong so they wouldnt be able to understand or sympathise with her and would just think of her as a bad mum. Plus my mum is stressed out enough with my Parkinsons suffering dad who is rapidly deteriorating.
Im worried that social services might get involved. I guess they wont as heroine addicts dont usually have their kids removed but the thought of losing my son scares the **** out of me.
Anyone got any advice on where to go next? I have taken her bank card from her and removed most of the booze from the house, bar 1 bottle of wine as the dr said she needs to wean herself off and i will allow her 1 glass of wine a day until she gets clean. I dont mind not having booze in the house as i dont really drink anyway so it wont bother me not having any around.
Thanks for any suggestions and please guys, no trolling, i dont have the energy for it today.
I got phone call from my wifes mother at 4pm yesterday asking if i could come home early, she wouldnt say why but that i was needed at home
I got home to find my wife drunk as a skunk. Apparently she has been drinking half a bottle of rum a day for the last year (since our son was born). Yesterday she had drunk a full bottle of rum and was in a mess.
I knew she has had issues in the past but i thought that was behind her. She is a functioning drunk in that she can drink a half bottle and you cant even tell. My son is always well looked after though, apart from yesterday, which must be why she called her mum as she knew she wasnt in a fit state
She had called her mum and admitted she has an issue. We went to the drs last night and they told her to refer herself to the Adaction centre in town. I guess she has done the right thing in admitting there is a problem and looking for help.
She has been very sneaky, taking money from my wallet and hiding rum around the house. She must also have blown around £3k on booze this year, which is the amount we are overdrawn. I have cut down on everything to try and cut down this overdraft (no sky sports, no new clothes, shopping at aldi, cancelled tesco dvd rental and not buying movies any more etc) but we were still struggling. Now i know why!!!
Im not sure what to do. I will stick with her and help her clean herself up but if i cant see her trying i will have to throw her out and bring up my son on my own. I dont want to do this as frankly i dont think i could cope with working 8am 5pm and bringing him up by myself. Especially with him getting up for feeds 3x a night, but at the end of the day he is my special little man and he comes first. He stayed at the wifes mum and dads last night so we could sort out as much as possible. They have been great and offered any support i might need (i get on very well with them). I cannot tell my parents as they will never forgive her. My family is very mentally strong so they wouldnt be able to understand or sympathise with her and would just think of her as a bad mum. Plus my mum is stressed out enough with my Parkinsons suffering dad who is rapidly deteriorating.
Im worried that social services might get involved. I guess they wont as heroine addicts dont usually have their kids removed but the thought of losing my son scares the **** out of me.
Anyone got any advice on where to go next? I have taken her bank card from her and removed most of the booze from the house, bar 1 bottle of wine as the dr said she needs to wean herself off and i will allow her 1 glass of wine a day until she gets clean. I dont mind not having booze in the house as i dont really drink anyway so it wont bother me not having any around.
Thanks for any suggestions and please guys, no trolling, i dont have the energy for it today.