42 this year and only worked 27 paid months total

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Yes, Mighty, I am on medication for the mental health. Have been since around 2000.
 
I too am going to unsubscribe from this thread, due to fear of sustaining a brain injury from banging my head against a brick-wall.

I don't even know how TO subscribe to threads, I just look at the General Chat index and click on the first thread that looks interesting to me.
 
Up to post #46, I thought it was a reasonable request for help and guidance, but now it's just turned into a pity-party.

If you wanted to work, you would.
If you had no other option, but to work you would.

There are other routes made available to you, that mean you don't have to work and now those choices are at risk of being limited or revoked you have the temerity to criticise the policy makers?
 
That's always easy to say but not always easy to achieve.

Whatever life has thrown at you there is always else in a worse situation, ie juliana wetmore. or born and raised on a garbage dump in Bangladesh or gay in a Islamic state...

So he lives in a 1st world country, has parents, gets benefit, NHS care, free doctors...and moaned he was punched in the stomach and called gay, 20 years ago..

Hard life...
 
Whatever life has thrown at you there is always else in a worse situation, ie juliana wetmore. or born and raised on a garbage dump in Bangladesh or gay in a Islamic state...
Is that your idea of consoling someone, no mater how bad they feel, point out what a shit hole the world can be?
 
Is that your idea of consoling someone, no mater how bad they feel, point out what a poop hole the world can be?

Yes.

Can you honestly say with a honest straight face when you moan about your own life. and the worst thing you have a boil on your face, and got bullied 20 years ago, when kids get leukemia and other terminal illnesses, and when those kids are more happy, and do more in their short lives, and more outgoing?
 
There are other routes made available to you, that mean you don't have to work and now those choices are at risk of being limited or revoked you have the temerity to criticise the policy makers?

Yes, because they're KILLING PEOPLE. Don't believe what the Daily Fail/Wail/Heil and other media in the ConDems' pocket say, they're LYING to you and you're believing what they say about the rampant "benefit scrounger" culture that they've carefully nurtured over the years.
 
Yes, Mighty, I am on medication for the mental health. Have been since around 2000.

Medication can help treat the symptoms of mental illness. However if since 2000 you haven't been assessed or referred to the care of someone who deals with mental illness then that should be you immediate focus.

I am basing this purely on the what you mentioned in your OP which heavily suggests someone struggling to cope with their mental state.
 
So he lives in a 1st world country, has parents, gets benefit, NHS care, free doctors...and moaned he was punched in the stomach and called gay, 20 years ago..

1st World country: the UK? Really, with a million people using food banks just this year alone?
Has parents: err, my mother died in 2011.
NHS care: maybe, but for how much longer?
 
Yes.

Can you honestly say with a honest straight face when you moan about your own life. and the worst thing you have a boil on your face, and got bullied 20 years ago, when kids get leukemia and other terminal illnesses, and when those kids are more happy, and do more in their short lives, and more outgoing?

i.e. Stephen Sutton MBE
 
how many burpees, pressups, and squats etc have you done?
 
Being on benefits IS tough for the low income, and it's even tougher when the government are trying to FORCE you into work by threatening to take those benefits away if you don't comply

Isn't that what it should be like?

Being on benefits is a lifeline when in times of need, it shouldn't be a lifestyle choice although by reading this thread it appears to be the case. You can clearly work hence the charity help , you've wasted a lot of years of your life foebane if i was in your position i'd be shitting myself if i'm honest.

You should have taken the time on benefits to access courses free of financial burden a friend of mine only a few years older than myself liked to get off his face most evenings until he found out his partner was expecting never worked a day in his life but in the past 6 months took a welding course and started working last monday £13 a hour starting salary 40 hours a week a massive improvement compared to £120 a fortnight benefits all for 6 months of effort.

What could you see yourself doing in the next 6-18 months the financial aid is there so nothing is stopping you, i reckon this country offers decent opportunity's for all if they are willing to put the effort in and not feel hard done by or sorry for themselves.

In the past 10 years you've went from ICT to cleaning you are supposed to progress and when people read the CV they'll sit scratching their head, wtf went wrong forget the past time to move on and seek help
 
Yes.

Can you honestly say with a honest straight face when you moan about your own life. and the worst thing you have a boil on your face, and got bullied 20 years ago, when kids get leukemia and other terminal illnesses, and when those kids are more happy, and do more in their short lives, and more outgoing?

When I posted the above, I was in fact recalling my past, and whilst I had difficulty in that sort of thing back then because I am indeed sensitive, I am starting to acknowledge that the UK, if not entirely Wales, is becoming more tolerant of what I am.

In fact, in my voluntary work, I have felt happier than I have in years and can happily be the talkative person that I tend to be - heck, in my last job my boss thought I didn't communicate enough, but I thought I did, but I think he meant clarification on how to do the technical tasks I was given with SAGE and stock control, which I managed to mess up for myself - but back when I was a student, Fairbridge Drake said that it was good to see me act as I normally would, not be shy, etc.
 
What are you good at? Something that comes natural without too much effort. Could you look for a career in that? I'm not sure if I see much fruit for all your IT labour in your previous jobs. Is IT really for you?

Find something you enjoy and are naturally good at.

BTW where does all this ghey stuff come from? If you aren't comfortable with it why try to wear that hat as well? You've got enough on your plate.
 
i can sympathise with the mental health thing as my wife has a 'personality disorder'. she has seen various specialists with no luck. she keeps getting sent back and forth between these people who have no idea what do do with her. this lead to her becoming an alcoholic to cope with the strain. she is now sober and has been for a year but the stress of it all made me have a bit of a wobble a few months ago where i was getting severe anxiety attacks (im talking full body shakes and throwing up). but im ok now, bar the odd stomach issues. they put me on sertraline but to be honest im not sure they actually helped. i found a breathing technique to help me. in the end i had to just force myself out of my comfort zone and back to work (i had 5 weeks on SSP which is pitiful to feed a family on). in the end i was shaking like a pooing dog on the way to work but once i got there it was ok. and has got better every day since. luckily i work for a small company and they were very supportive.

have you seen a specialist lately? what medication are you on? maybe you need to see someone else? ask for a referral. alcohol is a depressant. basically you are stealing tomorrow's happiness for today but the next day you are even worse. you seriously need to knock the booze on the head. completely. it is making you worse. remember a GP is called a GP for a reason. they are a jack of all trades and master of none. you need a master of mental health. pills alone wont fix you.

dont get me wrong, it wont be easy but you can do it if you really want to and you will feel better. my wife has the odd drink now (had a few watching the footy) but the next day she was very down and is again today. thats the booze for you.

if you need a chat PM me. happy to help if i can.
 
Being on benefits is a lifeline when in times of need, it shouldn't be a lifestyle choice although by reading this thread it appears to be the case.

No, I read it that he's on benefits because of mental health issues. Which aren't a "lifestyle choice". He wants to break out of "the rut" or whatever, so good for him.

Foebane, my advice would be to get training as a fork-lift driver. Its not hard to get trained up, and then you can dip your toes into the work based lifestyle through agency work, take as much as you feel you can cope with, because (or so it seems to me) there is always fork-lift work to be done and temp cover is always needed too. Then when you are ready to up the ante, take on full time work doing the same. Either through someone offering you a job or effectively full time through an agency. Then build up your confidence by sticking at it, then build it more by being better than the rest at it.

Then you can come back here and tell those who need to be told, that you are a national hero, because you snatched a good old British job away from one of those "evil Polish immigrants"
and came off benefits.

Then, and only then, you can celebrate with a small glass of cold, dry cider.
 
Don't expect random AV enthusiasts to understand mental illness, you're on a hiding to nothing.
 
No, I read it that he's on benefits because of mental health issues. Which aren't a "lifestyle choice". He wants to break out of "the rut" or whatever, so good for him.

Want's to break out of the rut but is no making no real effort too, mental health issues isn't really a valid excuse for being on benefits for 10 years either john.

Plenty of people suffer depression, and continue to work and have an active social life instead of excusing the laziness "oh it's fine he's depressed leave him be", he needs to give himself a kick up the arse 42 years and worked for only 3 of those. Something is seriously wrong with the benefits system to allow that to happen especially with the the help available.

Even single mum's are forced to go out looking for work when children reach a certain age, so how come a 42 year old bloke has managed to survive the cut?

Also the celebrate with a small glass of cold, dry cider not one of your better suggestions that one is it really considering?

I put it to you Foebane has played the benefits system to the full extent , that's me done with this thread i'll pop back in 18 months to see if Foebane has managed to achieve something apart from a new excuse or illness stopping him from becoming a fully paid up member of the british tax system :thumbsup:

A trip to the GP is needed to assess his medication especially if something said 20 years has left him in a state of despair

By the way i do have experience of dealing with people that suffer from depression, my mum's been on medication since i was 12 , she was an alcoholic too suffered a stroke when i was 16 left her with permanant brain damage i've had lows in my life to being just me and my mum having to help your mum into the bath or go to the toilet ain't exactly a picnic for a 16 year old studying full time.

More or less brought myself from a young age, could have went the way of most of the lads round my way drink and drugs but nope got a job and got on with my life and wouldn't have it any other way.
 
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We have been here many many times with this poster. I have even alluded to the boy who cried wolf in previous threads and yet here he is again with a new story.

In previous iterations of his life story he has said he was wrongly accused of being gay at college but that was a mistake, due to a careless remark on his part. He even alluded to that earlier in this thread. Suddenly we now have the new problem that he may be confused over his sexual orientation. Are we to believe this revelation occurred since the last time you posted on the subject?

I have asked you in the past not to discuss your health issues on the forum as it cannot be good for you, but to pursue medical help. I am now making this an official order.
 
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