I think that you'll find that both of the following will meet your needs. Both are quiet. Of the Thermalright's the 90 is slightly better than the 120. Of the Zalmans the CPNS7000 Alcu is the best bet being lighter and almost as efficient as the all copper version
Both of these can be run near silent and both are efficient. The Zalman comes with a rheostat so that you can adjust the fan speed. The Thermalright comes without a fan so you have to buy one. There are plenty to choose from depending on your particular requirements.
I have the Thermalright XP90 in my system with a chrome fan. I have a fanbus on the front of my case so that I can control the fan speeds on my system. For music, and movies I can turn down all my fans so that I am able to get as near silent running as is possible with air cooling.
I think that these two heatsink fans are generally regarded as the best of class in their market sectors. So either will suit you fine. Unfortunately Intel CPUs do run hot during normal operations. There are fanless solutions around but I'd be uneasy about using them.
Hope this helps.
Take a look for yourself on the following links, you may then choose to Google for reviews and comparisons of what's available. You can find what is probably the definitive PC cooling products comparisons on overclockers.com.
http://www.overclockers.co.uk/acatal...right_120.html http://www.overclockers.co.uk/acatal...alman_121.html