[$lim$hady]

Guys,

Sounds stupid, feel like a knob but i don’t care anymore...

i am having some mid life crises and need to talk.

Me and my girlfriend have been trying for a baby for 2 years now and Tidily squat!

[mjn]

Get the milk man to do it

[Deadringers]

il help out need a pic of your gf first though

[Liquid101]

Some friends of mine tried for 7 years - nothing.

They thought enough was enough and went to get specialist help in the form of IVF. They had the consultation, got the treatment planned.. etc etc. 2 weeks later she was pregnant naturally. A couple of years later they decided they wanted another, but this time they didn't 'try' they just took away the barriers and let nature do it's thing. She was pregnant within 4 months.

When we decided to have children, I was very keen to avoid the stress of trying, and just let things happen naturally. Within 5 weeks we were expecting our son - the same thing happened 3 years later, and we got a daughter.

My advice is to relax, stop thinking about the right time of month, temperature, wind direction and just enjoy the bumpy bumpy without the hassle of contraception. Just don't do it every night, as this can have a negative effect on the quality of your swimmers.

I assume that you've cut back on alcohol and cut out smoking (if you do) and looked at your diet - these can have a big impact.

Good luck and enjoy your freedom while you still have it.

[mjn]

Originally Posted by Liquid101

I assume that you've cut back on alcohol and cut out smoking (if you do) and looked at your diet - these can have a big impact.

Good luck and enjoy your freedom while you still have it.

Not to mention, lose some weight, if you're fat.

[Rorifett]

According to that life of a sperm programme which was on sky anytime a while back apparently the best thing you can do is just have sex once or so every couple of days. They said over sexing was bad and under sexing was bad but regular was good

Might be worthwhile trying to stop 'making a baby' and start just enjoying each others bodies again. Undoubtedly the stress of making a baby will be affecting both your desire to have sex (since you am a man after all ) and putting pressure on you both. Definitely don't think you should be getting annoyed at each other about it though!

You could try saying things out loud along the lines of 'I don't wanna have a baby' or 'I'm too young to have kids' etc and see if you can full your bodies into having an 'unplanned' pregnancy good luck, and as mjn said, there's always the milk man

*EDIT*

Also, if anyone else saw that life of the sperm programme - were any of you traumatised slightly? I tells ya, I felt bad for all the poor wee buggers over the years that have... well I'll not go into detail but basically they didn't have a chance to do their proper job lol

[William YZF-R1]

M8 having successfully fathered two sons, don't bother

They argue and fight every waking hour and anything you buy them is quickly labelled as rubbish, or literally reduced to rubbish by them.

The older they get the worse it gets.

Consider yourselves lucky, move on and enjoy a lifestyle without children.

If you want two ready made children PM.

[Mr Incredible]

Dude, my Mrs is an ex Midwife. All our three kids were conceived as planned and at the first attempt. (Incredible by name Incredible by nature......!!!)

Read up on The Billings Method (birth control method), then do the opposite! It worked for us!

[$lim$hady]

It's crazy.... how do these bloody teens do it....
I think the age is what's making it difficult, we both 30'ss and feel like Shi# when surrounded by friends and family that have kids and 2 years trying is not helping..

[William YZF-R1]

Chill out, posting this on the Forum speaks volumes.

If its what you both want do it in private and less often, just when you should

[wormvortex]

why not adopt?

[plasma123]

I think your last posts sum up why it aint working.

You both need to take a break from the old s.e.x, go away, have a holiday (no s.e.x) and become friends again.

Then, boom, bang, bing, its baby time.

But she aint going to conceive in the state she is at the moment.

[Bilbob]

agree with others here fella, you seriously need to chill out. Both of you.

Stop actually trying, in fact, stop having sex for a period. Forget the 'need' to do it to make a baby. The more you force it the more it is unlikely to happen. Take a couple of months off, enjoy sex for fun, then go see the docs again, and ask for help, there's lots they can do without needing to go IVF.

If you do that, I bet you'll find yourself painting the spare room before you know it

[Mr Noble]

Originally Posted by $lim$hady

It's crazy.... how do these bloody teens do it....
I think the age is what's making it difficult, we both 30'ss and feel like Shi# when surrounded by friends and family that have kids and 2 years trying is not helping.. we have been making the mistake of everyday but now it's messing with my head when I can’t do the business.

Each day missed we feel opportunity gone for that month so i don’t know... I did suggest the milkman to her but didn’t go down well: mad:

It's become so difficult on the relationship, I will be surprised if we are still together by end of the year because every unsuccessful night caused arguments and believe me there is at least 2 or 3 a week. Lol

well 1st you bend her legs behind her....... or is that twister

honestly i could tell you my method but don't want to warp your mind

No point in getting your self stressed out over it or you'll just prolong your situation, and we all know what stress does in the bedroom ....

Also are you sure she is the one it may be nature's way of saying stay well clear , if your arguing over something so trivial as this . god help you when/if baby Shady arrives , you may be older and think you could handle it as your mates can , but remember we all cope differently

p.s would this be the wrong time to say " give her one for me mate" every little helps

[Decadence]

It's all about a monthly cycle apparently, I wasn't really listening when the wife was going on about it...something to do with her vaginal mucus (can I say vaginal or will it need editing?) being a certain consistency for a couple of days a month meaning she was ready for impregnation...it seemed to work.

...pleasant eh? Welcome to my world!

[Zeromajor]

have you both been to your gp?. You've either got a lifestyle/diet problem or there's physical issues.

[mjn]

You are putting it in the right hole?

[Simba]

Originally Posted by William YZF-R1

M8 having successfully fathered two sons, don't bother

They argue and fight every waking hour and anything you buy them is quickly labelled as rubbish, or literally reduced to rubbish by them.

The older they get the worse it gets.

Consider yourselves lucky, move on and enjoy a lifestyle without children.

If you want two ready made children PM.

lolz thats one for the classfields

[Jenn]

Like others have said: stop trying.

My aunt wanted a baby so bad they were going at it like you seem to be, causing stress and resentment.
After a couple of years without success her husband decided to buy her a puppy dog (not saying that's what you should do!) for Xmas and she was completely crazy about the dog.

So much so that she "forgot" she had to make a baby and literally two weeks later she was pregnant.

If you are both fine on the reproduction side of things then you just need to relax and have sex because you want to, not because you have to.
Remember that nature is such that you will naturally fancy sex more when your wife is more fertile and she'll feel like that too.

[FZR400RRSP]

We've never had problems conceiving, just problems holding onto them.
Two miscarriages before our first-born.
Then another two + an ectopic (with emergency surgery and ovary removal) before our second born.
Meanwhile, friends of ours had terrible difficulty conceiving, but didn't have any problems when they did finally conceive.
I don't know which is the worse scenario, to be honest.
We also know one couple who couldn't conceive, so went down the route of adoption.
A couple of years after adopting, they had one of their own.
Goes some towards 'proving' a more relaxed attitude helps.
The pressure was off, they suddenly managed one of their own.

[emporer]

After a misscarriage for our first pregnancy it took months and months for our first child, mrs emporer had me on a strict regime, it was awful, she had certain times of day, certain this and that, she would have charts and stuff, it did my head in at the time. For our second child she bought a 100 quid computery fertility thingy from Boots and she was pregnant within days, couldn't believe how well it worked, it just worked on the first attempt!

[Naaktgeboren]

Originally Posted by emporer

After a misscarriage for our first pregnancy it took months and months for our first child, mrs emporer had me on a strict regime, it was awful, she had certain times of day, certain this and that, she would have charts and stuff, it did my head in at the time. For our second child she bought a 100 quid computery fertility thingy from Boots and she was pregnant within days, couldn't believe how well it worked, it just worked on the first attempt!

I'm with emporer, look no further than the Persona machine from Boots, this will actually tell your wife the day she actually ovulates so unless you are infertile, she will become pregnant. Of course the Persona is designed as a means of contraception but many people use them the other way around. I believe it costs approx £60. My wife is irregular so without that machine it would be impossible.

It's no fun having sex every night just incase it's the right moment, at that stage sex turns into a chore and becomes boring. Just get the machine and relax a little and wait for the machine to tell you when you should

[FaxFan2002]

If neither of you have any children you are entitled to a course of IVF free of charge. The initial tests they do will highlight any "issues".

Hang in there it is well worth it

[mrtbag]

Slim,

Here's some simple rules:

Forget monthly cycles
Forget you want a babay
Forget any advice your given on the right way/time/position to do it in that may help.

Me and my wife took just under a year and a half for our first, following lots of different diets/routines etc that had been recommended to us.

For our second we just decided to make love loads whenever and however we wanted, putting the trying to get pregnant thing to the back of our minds. 5 weeks later, we have number 2 on the way.

Seriously, take a break (a month say), then just get back to enjoying it without the pressures. It'll happen!!

[$lim$hady]

Thanks guys...

I will take a chill pill, if still nothing i will head to boots for the £60. didnt think it was this hard...

[Jay]

Originally Posted by $lim$hady

didnt think it was this hard...

If it's hard now, it's probably the perfect time to try

(I'm sorry it was a (very bad) joke)

[AJUK]

How do you make babies ? I'm only 12 and don't know ?

[HRF1T2007]

Originally Posted by Liquid101

Some friends of mine tried for 7 years - nothing.

They thought enough was enough and went to get specialist help in the form of IVF. They had the consultation, got the treatment planned.. etc etc. 2 weeks later she was pregnant naturally. A couple of years later they decided they wanted another, but this time they didn't 'try' they just took away the barriers and let nature do it's thing. She was pregnant within 4 months.

When we decided to have children, I was very keen to avoid the stress of trying, and just let things happen naturally. Within 5 weeks we were expecting our son - the same thing happened 3 years later, and we got a daughter.

My advice is to relax, stop thinking about the right time of month, temperature, wind direction and just enjoy the bumpy bumpy without the hassle of contraception. Just don't do it every night, as this can have a negative effect on the quality of your swimmers.

I assume that you've cut back on alcohol and cut out smoking (if you do) and looked at your diet - these can have a big impact.

Good luck and enjoy your freedom while you still have it.

Excellent advice, chill out and relax the pressure your building up on this can have a detrimental effect

[Hitby]

Originally Posted by AJUK

How do you make babies ? I'm only 12 and don't know ?

Apparently you fall in love with someone and then fight with them a bit and then a big Stork comes and drops one on your house?

I don't know how true this is but it seems plausible

[stewart28]

what type of birth control was being used before you started trying?

me and the missus have been trying for our second for 4 years and have had no luck.