[kayzee]

Hi, so... my year started with me spenidng NYE/NYD in A&E. I got attacked and ended up with a badly broken nose, several cracked teeth and lots of blood and bruising. I recently found out my cat's got cancer. And my longest ever relationship ended this week with my girlfriend dumping me completely out the blue, I'm absolutely heart-broken.

My brother was diagnosed with a crushed spine last year, it's been getting a lot worse this year, he currently needs to use a tens unit nearly everyday. My gran got ill over christmas and has got worse, not better, although she's still doing well considering it's her 94th birthday next week.

What else is this year gonna throw at me! I really feel like I can't cope. At least I've still got a job to go to, although it is very quiet atm and pretty much all I'm doing all day is sitting here thinkin about my ex

Someone give me some words of encouragement!

[harty23]

Originally Posted by kayzee

Hi, so... my year started with me spenidng NYE/NYD in A&E. I got attacked and ended up with a badly broken nose, several cracked teeth and lots of blood and bruising. I recently found out my cat's got cancer. And my longest ever relationship ended this week with my girlfriend dumping me completely out the blue, I'm absolutely heart-broken.

My brother was diagnosed with a crushed spine last year, it's been getting a lot worse this year, he currently needs to use a tens unit nearly everyday. My gran got ill over christmas and has got worse, not better, although she's still doing well considering it's her 94th birthday next week.

What else is this year gonna throw at me! I really feel like I can't cope. At least I've still got a job to go to, although it is very quiet atm and pretty much all I'm doing all day is sitting here thinkin about my ex

Someone give me some words of encouragement!

Sorry to hear that mate, thought I was having a bad year, doesn't quite seem it after reading that. At least you've got your health and your job.

You've also still got your Brother and your Nan so try focusing on at least them 2 positives and spend as much time with them as you can, while you can.....

As for the G.F, sod her, plenty more fish in the sea..... Use the fact you've got the job and some money to treat some/alot of girls to some "good times"

Good luck.

[Lezman]

Thats not good at all dude

I don't have any pearls of wisdom, but keep your chin up and I'm sure things will get better for you

Do not seek solace at the bottom of the bottle (well maybe just the once)

[Iccz]

Keep your head up fella, the GF might be gone but if that's the case, she wasn't right, and you'll find someone better in time. GFs come and go, family isn't like that, concentrate on them at the moment.
Memories with family are ones that will never fade, ex's, they vanish into the cloudy past.

As said above spend time with your family and don't worry about things on the relationship front, you've got plenty of time and choice when it comes to that and it's not that important in retrospect.
Right now your family need you and you need them.

Take only good from it, think yourself lucky it wasn't dragged out and messy, sure it hurts but you can take plenty of good from it.
It's one less drain on your resources too so it's not all that bad in these times!


little note: don't ask here for advice when you find a new girl you like, if you've seen the recent threads you'll understand why

[Showoff]

Really sorry to hear about your bad start to the year.
I'd suggest reading a book call Change your life in 7 days by Paul McKenna.

It has some really good tips on how to look at things positively. It's not about making drastic changes to your life and suitable for anyone to read even if you think your life is great at the moment. The CD is also good to help you relax.

I really hope things start to improve for you, as for the GF, as has already been said, forget about her and move on, remember the good times, but don't dwell on them, use the time to have some fun.

[kayzee]

lol I've always found this place pretty handy with advice though

The main thing that gets me with my ex is how sudden it was, completely took me by surprise. When I was with her I, I was either seeing her or staying at home. Saw mates maybe once a week? I've told myself I'm going to do everything I'm invited to from now on, even if it's just to take my mind off it!

As it's my grans birthday I'm hoping to get her away for a little meal next week with my mum and brother, I've taken the day off for it, hopefully she'll be able to make it as she hasn't been eating properly lately.

It's hard to stay positive! Got a call from mum earlier saying she has to have a tooth taken out in a couple of weeks, nothing major, but again not bloody good news!

Argh... I guess things can only get better although I don't wanna jinx it, so... I never said that, right

[Iccz]

Originally Posted by kayzee

lol I've always found this place pretty handy with advice though

AV gear =

Women =



If we had the technical specs on them instead of just the physical dimensions then we'd all be a lot better at advice!!!

[sniffer66]

Originally Posted by Iccz

AV gear =

Women =



If we had the technical specs on them instead of just the physical dimensions then we'd all be a lot better at advice!!!

Personally I'd be happy with an online review facility, the Phil Hinton Video Review

For the Op, chin up mate, since the start of the year I'm losing my hearing due to Menieres Disease - and having to wait 5 weeks for hearing aids, my washing machine blew up, someone drove into my car and I lost the ability to earn my second income, which recently was outstripping my main income by a grand a month. apart from that everything is just peachy

[montybaber]

Theres very little advice anyone is going to give that will make you feel much different about your ex, only thing I can say is given time it will get easier.

Try to think of this as an opertunity to make some changes for the better so when you bump into her down the line she will realise that you have not moped around but got on with things and been positive, she will admire that in you and its better to be admired than pitied.

Do something new, push yourself something like an evening course / language try to fill your life with stuff so you can live it to the full.

Sorry about all the bad luck, I know how hard it is mate my Saint Bernard has just been diagnosed with cancer too, you have my sympathy as im sure you will find many that wont offer it (just a cat etc) I am just starting treatment next week on my boy, if you need any advice my OH works at a vets and maybe she can help you with any questions you have.

Chin up mate

[kayzee]

Originally Posted by sniffer66

Personally I'd be happy with an online review facility, the Phil Hinton Video Review

For the Op, chin up mate, since the start of the year I'm losing my hearing due to Menieres Disease - and having to wait 5 weeks for hearing aids, my washing machine blew up, someone drove into my car and I lost the ability to earn my second income, which recently was outstripping my main income by a grand a month. apart from that everything is just peachy

Damn dude, sorry to hear that too! Not that I wan't to hear about other people in misery, but at least I'm not the only hater of 2009!

I don't think I should talked about the specifications of my ex, I'm not calm atm and this is a family forum

[kopchoir]

Originally Posted by Iccz

AV gear =

Women =

now i love av gear but i love women more im afraid

Not had a good start to the year either my old man needs open heart surgery failed 2 assignments at uni over silly things, my daughter is not well again my dishwasher and washer and my boiler has now just packed in will cost me easily around £1500 think were having another baby and i get wed next saturday and now unsure as im going on honeymoon as im going to have to fork out for a new boiler all in all a very stressfull time at the mo

but yeah chin up

[Kieron]

Get out there and have some fun with your mates. The girls will soon turn up.

Things can only get better mate

[shodan]

Mate, go and have real nasty nooky with the ex's sister or best mate, or both. Maybe your nan could give you some advice or something to cheer you up given that she is nearly a hundred years old! I bet she has some great stories!
I'm sure I speak for everyone here when I wish your brother all the best and a happy birthday to Nan!
Above all, try not to take everything personally mate and try to treat yourself for a while.

[sniffer66]

Originally Posted by kayzee

Damn dude, sorry to hear that too! Not that I wan't to hear about other people in misery, but at least I'm not the only hater of 2009!

I don't think I should talked about the specifications of my ex, I'm not calm atm and this is a family forum

No worries, 2008 was really bad as well TBH. I had about 10 months off work with the illness At the end of the day its all about whether the good things in your life outweigh the bad. I have a lovely family, people who love me, a great bunch of friends and I live in a land of plenty with lots of great AV gear (even if I cant bloody hear it LOL). However bad things seem, if you take stock you can always find some things, usually the REALLY important things to be grateful for !

[eric pisch]

yep my year is going very very badly, got 5 major major bad things on the go atm

so I know where your coming from

[wellladida]

Originally Posted by shodan

Mate, go and have real nasty nooky with the ex's sister or best mate, or both.

Preferably at the same time!!!!!!!!!

[emporer]

I know how it feels, this is turning out to be the worst year of my life, our little boy is severley disabled with cerebral palsy amogst other things and we're now being told he may be terminaly ill and may not live much longer, to top it all off my dad has been diagnosed with lung cancer and has only a few months left. My world is falling down around me and I cant do a thing. It feels awful, really does.

All I can say is try and keep smiling no matter how hard it is.

[Kieron]

Originally Posted by emporer

I know how it feels, this is turning out to be the worst year of my life, our little boy is severley disabled with cerebral palsy amogst other things and we're now being told he may be terminaly ill and may not live much longer, to top it all off my dad has been diagnosed with lung cancer and has only a few months left. My world is falling down around me and I cant do a thing. It feels awful, really does.

All I can say is try and keep smiling no matter how hard it is.

And to think the OP had problems.

kayzee - you need to read the above posted by emporer. Heartbreaking.

[shodan]

Originally Posted by emporer

I know how it feels, this is turning out to be the worst year of my life, our little boy is severley disabled with cerebral palsy amogst other things and we're now being told he may be terminaly ill and may not live much longer, to top it all off my dad has been diagnosed with lung cancer and has only a few months left. My world is falling down around me and I cant do a thing. It feels awful, really does.

All I can say is try and keep smiling no matter how hard it is.

Mate, I have no words i feel are worthy to answer your post except I think you are an exceptionally brave man to be able to face your circumstances and still offer another words of advice.

[pete1866]

I would like to wish the op well and some of the others who have replied who are having difficult times all the best , Pete

[kayzee]

Originally Posted by emporer

I know how it feels, this is turning out to be the worst year of my life, our little boy is severley disabled with cerebral palsy amogst other things and we're now being told he may be terminaly ill and may not live much longer, to top it all off my dad has been diagnosed with lung cancer and has only a few months left. My world is falling down around me and I cant do a thing. It feels awful, really does.

All I can say is try and keep smiling no matter how hard it is.

Wow yeah, I'm so sorry to hear that! That's some serious stuff to deal with...

I know it hardly compares, but was in the pub tonight with a good few friends and I've never felt so alone in all my life. Had to say my goodbyes and leave before I broke down.

Oh well, time to drown my sorrows tomorrow, just hope that getting drunk won't make me more depressed!

[Iccz]

Originally Posted by kayzee

Oh well, time to drown my sorrows tomorrow, just hope that getting drunk won't make me more depressed!

Umm, well alcohol reduces the levels of serotonin in your brain, which is the opposite of SSRI's like prozac. So in theory it will make you more depressed...



But to hell with science!
Have enough and you'll be too smashed to even notice!

[la gran siete]

Frankly your GF's timing is abysmal especially as you got your face stoved quite recently,Harsh and bloody painful but with time you'll realise she wasnt good enough for you

[la gran siete]

Originally Posted by shodan

Mate, go and have real nasty nooky with the ex's sister or best mate, or both. M

good healthy advice from a police officer

[woundedDaisy]

awwww your not having a good time of it are you my lifes a bit like that at the moment. Gotta look at it like what ever life brings at you it makes your stronger or we would all be fooked

[small358786]

Split up with someone I had spent 4-5 years with just before xmas then just as things were getting better my job was then under threat.
I will find out this Wednesday if I still have a job or not,the signs do look quite good at the moment but it's still been anxious waiting these past 4 weeks.

[woundedDaisy]

Originally Posted by small358786

Split up with someone I had spent 4-5 years with just before xmas then just as things were getting better my job was then under threat.
I will find out this Wednesday if I still have a job or not,the signs do look quite good at the moment but it's still been anxious waiting these past 4 weeks.

Are you my twin?

Split up from my ex that i was with since i was 17, Then my job was under threat found out last Friday i was save but not for long as i think the company is going to close. my cat needed an op cost a fortune but worth it, but will need to get another one if he not any better

[mjn]

I have an asshole for a builder doing my extension.
A member of my gf's family is terminally ill with cancer.
My cat has been to the vets 3 times so far this year, due to fighting with a stray cat.
My job is being outsourced at some point in the next few months.
My Mam is going into hospital for a double eye operation next week.
After months of hard training, i lost in my fight fight of the British KB championships with a split decision.

And its only February!!!

[kayzee]

Friday night I was feeling like crap, I think because I was hanging near to where she lives, and also I used to see her every friday...

Forced myself out saturday and had a much better night, and I actually pulled! Which is pretty rare for me, but good timing, still in the game lol.

Still finding it hard, but just trying to keep my mind off it atm. Never used to go out and do much but last week was out thursday, friday and saturday, and tonight I'm playing tennis

However, someone hit my car today and I now have a smashed wing mirror, great!

[sianba]

Keep your chin up

Im to having a bad year, mum got diagnosed with cancer in November, Lost my Job in Dec my 3yr son broke nose before christmas, mum had to have 1 lung out in Jan and still recovering, my son now been diagnosed with a hernia in his groin which i still dont know how to tell him he got to go to hospital and still looking for a job and the missus just been told last week she has to go from full time to part time.

But why life is **** the main thing to remember it will get better and dont get draged down into depression, keep your chin up and fight you will get the rewards.

Sianba