Friends reunited

Anyone tried it?

I did and was surprised to see my old mates sitting there.

Anyway, on the same page was a dating page also,well, I gave it a try and I can say without hesitation if anyone is single on here, go for it!

I had a couple of dates off it this week,I'm married but does no harm for the ego, (please dont flame me ).

Both younger girls and one was stunning and I mean stunning!Local too,very very tempted too...but Mrs AV would do a Mrs Bobbit..

Advice needed

ps , I'm off on my hols tomorrow with Mrs AV, she has noticed a change in me already,mid life chrisis? I'm 40

[Lawrenzini]

Are you serious/mad? What are you doing, really.

How would you feel if your wife was out with other blokes for an "ego boost"

Thanks for the reply but how old are you?

All due respect mate but I really need an older perspective on this one.

i am great at giving advice but....

[Setenza]

Don't do anything to your partner, directly or indirectly that you would not wish to be done to you.

If you want to play the field, fine. Just leave your wife first.

Relationships are complicated things. This is one area of life where you cannot have you cake and eat it. Well you can, it just has major consequences.

If you basicly want more sex in your life here's a radical idea. Try involving your wife! Pay attention to her, spoil her, listen to her. Kisses and hugs are greatly appreciated by the fairer sex. They can also lead to a lot more.

A woman in love, who feels appreciated will give it her all. Trust me on this one.

Originally Posted by Xusia Of Delos

Don't do anything to your partner, directly or indirectly that you would not wish to be done to you.

If you want to play the field, fine. Just leave your wife first.

Relationships are complicated things. This is one area of life where you cannot have you cake and eat it. Well you can, it just has major consequences.

If you basicly want more sex in your life here's a radical idea. Try involving your wife! Pay attention to her, spoil her, listen to her. Kisses and hugs are greatly appreciated by the fairer sex. They can also lead to a lot more.

A woman in love, who feels appreciated will give it her all. Trust me on this one.

I take on board what your saying and i do!

I recently went away with the lads to Spain, without trying to sound conceited i received a lot of attention from the fairer sex and I didn't stray.

So why do I have these feelings now?

[leej]

I can just say this. One of my mates started going to pubs where he (38) met a younger woman (22). One thing led to another and now after just 6 weeks, he left his wife and 2 kids, she emptied the bank account, he moved in with the young un, she kicked him out and now he has nothing. Worst is he still loves his wife. I think he enjoyed the attention but took it too far. Unless your prepared for the potential consequencies it isn't worth it.

Originally Posted by leej

I can just say this. One of my mates started going to pubs where he (38) met a young girl (22). One thing led to another and now in just 6 weeks, he left his wife and 2 kids, she emptied the bank account, he moved in with the young un, she kicked him out and now he has nothing. Unless your prepared for the potential consequencies it isn't worth it.

When I say younger,I mean 10 years,women!

I gave nothing away , at all...maybe M.Proops for me.. ..Maybe the holiday will sort my head out...

Originally Posted by Xusia Of Delos

Don't do anything to your partner, directly or indirectly that you would not wish to be done to you.

If you want to play the field, fine. Just leave your wife first.

Relationships are complicated things. This is one area of life where you cannot have you cake and eat it. Well you can, it just has major consequences.

If you basicly want more sex in your life here's a radical idea. Try involving your wife! Pay attention to her, spoil her, listen to her. Kisses and hugs are greatly appreciated by the fairer sex. They can also lead to a lot more.

A woman in love, who feels appreciated will give it her all. Trust me on this one.

I read your previous post mate a while ago and felt so sorry for you and wished you all the success in turning things around.

I feel guilty now posting what I have...but its a problem none the less..

[Setenza]

So why do I have these feelings now?

Well 40 is perceived as a age barrier to cross. I'm 38 and I still feel 20. But to a lot of younger people I'm ancient. It makes you think.

I'm sure the psychologist and anthropologist would tell use it's about the ageing alpha male becoming concerned in loosing his status.

Men are programmed at a genetic level to impregnate as many females as possible. Howver civilisation teaches us the stability and sense of monogamy.

I have recently had major relationship problems with my wife. These were over money. We've spent some time apart. I've been lonely during this time, but to use that as a reason for some extramarital sex would be foolish, selfish, and very counter productive.

Relationships have to be worked at. Has it ever occurred to you that your wife may feel the same?

Consider tactfully discussing this matter with her. It may help. Just remeber to handle it correctly.

Originally Posted by Xusia Of Delos

Well 40 is perceived as a age barrier to cross. I'm 38 and I still feel 20. But to a lot of younger people I'm ancient. It makes you think.

I'm sure the psychologist and anthropologist would tell use it's about the ageing alpha male becoming concerned in loosing his status.

Men are programmed at a genetic level to impregnate as many females as possible. Howver civilisation teaches us the stability and sense of monogamy.

I have recently had major relationship problems with my wife. These were over money. We've spent some time apart. I've been lonely during this time, but to use that as a reason for some extramarital sex would be foolish, selfish, and very counter productive.

Relationships have to be worked at. Has it ever occurred to you that your wife may feel the same?

Consider tactfully discussing this matter with her. It may help. Just remeber to handle it correctly.

No talky to Mrs Bobbit about any of this, seriously , its a non starter!

Guees I'll have to clear my mind and get on with things.

The last thing on my mind is upping sticks and moving on,my son is 10 and means more to me than life itself!


I really just need a punch in the face...

[Setenza]

Hey, we all check out the menu every now and then of a different restarant. Just don't book a table and order a meal

Originally Posted by Xusia Of Delos

Hey, we all check out the menu every now and then of a different restarant. Just don't book a table and order a meal

Yeah but not three meals in five days...

Anyway mate, my ramblings are pathetic compared to your problems and I wish you all the best on your reconciliation.

Back on track for me....

[Johan]

Originally Posted by av2diefor
Anyway mate, my ramblings are pathetic compared to your problems and I wish you all the best on your reconciliation.

They are now but if you pursue those dates they might no longer be.
As always it easier to see and also easy to say what to do from the sidelines, so maybe try to see it like it was your best friend that was in your situation. What would you advise him to do?
I agree with you on not discussing it with your wife because she will have noted some subtle changes in your ways, I bet, women are good at this.
Best way of discussing these things and get her views on it is when a friend is going thru something similar but not right now because she might smell a rat.

Greetings
Johan

[mattlad]

Originally Posted by av2diefor

ps , I'm off on my hols tomorrow with Mrs AV, she has noticed a change in me already,mid life chrisis? I'm 40

Buy a T.V.R.

[shodan]

Originally Posted by av2diefor

I really just need a punch in the face...

Just show this thread to your wife then and you'll get your wish... ;-)