[Sniper Ash6]

My dad passed away just over 3 and a half years ago

He had cancer 6 times in 10 years after a fight that he never gave up on until right at the end. He had world class surgeons, my mum, sister and i stuck with him and my sister and i being young at the time always knew what was going on. Dad was initially given till Christmas when diagnosed the first time in Oct and managed to beat it and kept beating it and beating the time estimates.
The 6th time, there was nothing that could be done, dad was given only a few months and managed to last over a year. The last 6 weeks dad was in the hospice. My mum, sister and I visited everyday as dad wanted to know what was going on at college/school/work.

Dad was one of 13 children and his brothers and sisters always wanted to see him at the hospice and really started to become part of our lives. In the hospice when they got to see him they promised him that they would look after us as that is what he wanted them to do and for us not to be alone etc.

To this day i barely see any of them, sometimes i see one of my Aunties in Sainsburys but avoid her as they dont understand our loss as to them it seems more important that its their brother.

Does/Did anyone else see their aunts and uncles often or is this a common occurance in families?

[jp_bl_68]

When I was growing up I would only see my aunts and uncles at weddings and funerals but I don't go to the those anymore so it's been a few years since I saw any of them.

[setjellyfish]

I hardly ever see my brother and he only lives a couple of miles away let alone aunts and uncles

[Saldawop]

When I was growing up, I was always with my cousins, one of which was my best friend. Then they moved away...all of about 7 miles , and that was that. I see them now only at the usual gatherings..ie funerals and weddings.

[kopchoir]

I see a lot of my family aunts uncles grandad have a pretty big family and we are all close.
As a child i was always very lucky in having great grandparents on both sides as well as grandparents it was marvelous growing up with so much love miss them times as well

[Haly]

Families can be very strange especially when grieving.

My Dad died suddenly last year and I'm lucky that my Aunt (his sister) has stayed very close to me and my Mum, even saying that my Mum is like a sister to her. It's lovely to have as we have that connection to my Dad's youth.

My Mum's sisters, however, I've hardly seen in years. Saw them a lot when her Mum/my grandmother was dying about 14 years ago but after she died, that was it. When my Dad died, one of my Mum's sisters came to the funeral but hardly spoke (never spoke to me which was a bit crap as she hasn't seen me since I was 10). The other one emailed (!) 20 minutes before the funeral to say she was too busy and wouldn't be there.

In the past year and a half I've learnt an awful lot of people behave in strange ways when it comes to grief and death. Ways that really don't make sense to me and can often feel extremely unfeeling.

Probably a bit of a pointless ramble above there :o But if you ever need a chat, I'm always only a PM away

[Sniper Ash6]

Thanks
Am sorry to hear about all the stuff that has happened to your family

It just annoys mum and I that they promised that to dad and dont keep to it

[Newton's Ring]

I see my nephew (15) and niece (13) pretty often - about once a week - sometimes more, sometimes less. My other nephew, my brother's kid, I see less often but only because they live about 300 miles away.
Generally we're all pretty close, dysfunctional, like the Royle family, but close.

[Haly]

Originally Posted by Sniper Ash6

Thanks
Am sorry to hear about all the stuff that has happened to your family

It just annoys mum and I that they promised that to dad and dont keep to it

Not surprised it annoys you both! It's a pretty low thing to do, making a promise like that and not keeping it :/

[_dark_blu]

I haven't seen my Aunt or Uncle since my Granddad died in December '03. I come from a really dysfunctional family where they all bitch about each other and I've grown up accepting that my family really only consists of my parents and 1 brother. I really get on with my Aunt and am intent on repairing the damage that my family have let happen over the last 20 years.

[antacid]

Use to see them a every now and again, both parents passed away now and most of my aunts/uncles have also passed away.