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Old 11-09-2009, 10:00 PM   #1
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My Grand Dad

This morning, on his 81st birthday, my grand dad passed away.

He was the only grand dad I ever had as my other one died before I was born.

With 81 years you can imagine he's had an interesting life.
He started work in a factory aged 14 years old.
Aged 16 years old he was drafted as a soldier to fight in WWII.
Aged 17 he became a "Malgres nous": forced to fight on the German side against his will. When the Americans came, he (along with others) was put in a jail for a month until they could establish that he was there against his will.
Aged 21 he met my grand mum at a ball, three days later they met again on a date and he proposed to her.
Aged 22 they were married and had their first son. In the next 8 years they had 2 more daughters.
In the late 60s they bought a 'Cafe', the french version of a pub which had its own bowling alley. They worked hard but had a good life there.
Then my grand dad started being a taxi driver at night to help with the finances.
This put a strain on the family life so in 1979 when all their children were married and had a home of their own, my grand parents packed it all in to move to sunny Algeria where my grand dad worked as an electrician.
My parents (and 1 year old me) visited them on holidays and didn't go back home as my dad got a good job there.

We all shared a huge gorgeous colonial era house and embrassed the life there.
My grand dad bought a small motor boat that was used to go fishing tuna and all sorts. He also enjoyed going scuba diving and catching fish with harpoons.
10 years later my grand dad retired so they moved back to France and they bought a derelict longere in Brittany.
Aged over 60 years old, my grand parents (and grand mum's older brother) took the house apart: roof of, walls down stone by stone etc. and over the next few years rebuilt it all by hand themselves with little if any professional help and made it into a gorgeous stone walled property with magnificent features. That's where he spent his last days.

On a more personal level, he was a great wine connaisseur and he enjoyed classical music. He was very clever and quite witty too.
He taught me how to scuba dive and looking at him working on his house I learnt how to lay tiles (aged 11) and a few other things.
As I said before he had 3 children, 6 grand children and 3 great grand children who all love him dearly.
He told my grand mum every day "If only you knew how much I love you". It would have been their 60th anniversary in 5 months time, they so wanted to make it to 60th...

He had been ill (artherosclerosis and heart attacks over the years) for a while but his last words to the doctor who was going to try and save him this morning were "I'm feeling good" before he closed his eyes.

His name is Frederic, he was and "ordinary" man but he was also extraordinary, he was 81 years old today and I'll miss him.

Thanks to anyone who took the time to read about him.
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Old 11-09-2009, 10:03 PM   #2
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Re: My Grand Dad

My condolences to you and your family and it seem's your Grand Dad led an eventful life
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Old 11-09-2009, 10:05 PM   #3
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Re: My Grand Dad

thanks to you for taking the time to write that about him, it sounds like he had an amazing life

my thoughts are with you and your family at this time.

all the best, nick (RD)
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Old 11-09-2009, 10:08 PM   #4
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Re: My Grand Dad

sorry to hear of your sad loss.your granddad had a long and interesting life and i am sure you will have many happy memories of him
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Old 11-09-2009, 10:08 PM   #5
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Re: My Grand Dad

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his last words to the doctor who was going to try and save him this morning were "I'm feeling good" before he closed his eyes.
That's a comforting thought for us all! my condolences to you and your family.
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Old 11-09-2009, 10:26 PM   #6
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Re: My Grand Dad

Very very touching, sorry to hear about your loss but thanks for the wonderful post.
Condolences to you and your family.
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Old 11-09-2009, 10:38 PM   #7
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Re: My Grand Dad

A heart warming story, RIP, thoughts are with you and the family.
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Old 11-09-2009, 10:38 PM   #8
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Sorry to hear of your loss. My thoughts are with you and your family.
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Old 11-09-2009, 10:41 PM   #9
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Re: My Grand Dad

My condolences at this sad time for you and your family. Cherish the memories.
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Old 11-09-2009, 10:46 PM   #10
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Re: My Grand Dad

Hi,

My very sincere condolences to you & your family at the loss of your wonderful Grandfather.


Suave.
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Old 11-09-2009, 11:28 PM   #11
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Re: My Grand Dad

luvverly post their mate
what a life, what a life.
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Old 11-09-2009, 11:35 PM   #12
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My condolences, from your post it's clear the positive impact the man had on you. That's something you'll always have.
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Old 12-09-2009, 7:50 AM   #13
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A great loss, but also a great life well lived.

My dad's funeral was yesterday, so I know how you feel.
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Old 12-09-2009, 7:56 AM   #14
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My condolences at this sad time for you and your family.
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Old 12-09-2009, 8:01 AM   #15
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He sounds a wonderful man who led the sort of interesting and varied life that makes a lot of us jealous. It's good that you have such wonderful memories
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Old 12-09-2009, 8:32 AM   #16
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Re: My Grand Dad

Really enjoyed reading that - thanks for sharing. He sounded like a great man who lead a very interesting, fulfilling and worthwhile life.

My thoughts are with you and your family at this difficult time.

On another point, over the last 10 or 15 years, since my own father died, I have really started to appreciate the older generation. Recently this has been reinforced as my father-in-law is in his mid-70s, and he's a great and really interesting man. I find that I love chatting to older people and find I have more time for them (when you are young you just think they are old foogies). Perhaps its because so many younger people/those up to 40 are such assholes !!

I think that too many younger people dismiss the older generation as pains, but we wouldn't be what we are now without them.
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Old 12-09-2009, 8:39 AM   #17
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I agree - our next door neighbour is in his eighties and is a great fella. I chat with him pretty much every other day over the garden fence (BTW I am 35).

Older people have a great deal to teach us, if only we'd be more willing to learn.
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Old 12-09-2009, 12:48 PM   #18
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Thanks everyone for the kind words.

We as a family are coping by remembering all the good times we've shared with him and in a way it means he's not gone.

CooperUK, I'm sorry about your dad.
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Condolences to you and the family. Wonderful memories

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My dad's funeral was yesterday, so I know how you feel.
Condolences to you and to the family. Hope you get through this difficult time quickly.
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Old 12-09-2009, 2:11 PM   #20
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i have to say i also really enjoyed reading that and afterwards even though i obviously never knew your grandad i actually felt like i somehow did. all the best to you jenn and good luck.
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Thanks for sharing your story of your personal loss, Sounds like a wonderful life worth celebrating.
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I'll drink to that. x
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Condolences to you and your family, and thank you so much for sharing this with us. His was certainly a life worth celebrating.
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My Grandad was my hero too. I am saddened to read about your loss but happy you had him to look up to.
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Re: My Grand Dad

A great post about a man who enjoyed life. . .

Rest in Peace
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Old 12-09-2009, 5:47 PM   #26
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Re: My Grand Dad

I'm not sure i'd know as much about my grand dad, so it's to your credit that you wrote a great tribute to his life.

I'm sorry for your loss
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