Sorry, but I think you're wasting your time messing with subwoofer stuffing when your room is the real problem. You'll invalidate the warranty by opening it up! Let's assume that REL know just enough about making subs to decide whether saving a few pence on stuffing is important to them (and you the user).
What would I do?

Easy!

Move!
Or, you can draw the square that forms your room's floor plan on a big bit of paper. Then try all possible rotations of your listening triangle (main speakers to listening position) on your plan. Keep the main speakers the same distance from you but assymetric to the room. So both speakers aren't sitting in the nearest corners just because that's easiest. Listening across the diagonal of the room may be the best option to get away from the constant reinforcing of particular frquencies that you presently experience. But be warned, it may not help at all!
Once you've eliminated your speakers from the room resonances you can try the subwoofer somewhere else. Like next door!
Or try raising the sub on various surfaces at different heights to get it away from the floor where you get maximum boundary gain effects. Try it on top of cupboards, on coffee tables or anything else you have handy. But obviously it must be somewhere safe from the sub walking off the edge of a cliff from the vibration. Even bring the sub out into the room where you won't fall over it. You can always park it out of the way when not in use.
You could even try this with your speakers in their present position. Try any safe positioning idea with your sub so you don't to excite the room's natural resonances. I'm assuming you don't have your sub gain set too high.
Downfiring probably won't produce any noticable effect over front firing and may be slightly worse.
Try Room Arranger if you want to play with your room layout on your monitor. It's much more fun than bits of paper even if it takes much longer.
http://www.roomarranger.com/
The following software suggest you should be swamped at 43 and 86Hz. Which suggests your room is slightly larger than you think it is at around 4.6metres cubed. A 4 metre high room is rather odd too! Are you sure you can't move?
http://www.mcsquared.com/modecalc.htm
Regards
Nimby