All camcorders will have the 4 pin , and Setop DVD recorders, laptops will have the 4- pin as well.
Some desktops have Both( mine does) but invariably desktops would have at least the 6 pin as standard
I dont know where the sexes come into play As far as i know the 4 pin or 6 pin are unisex!

. As for which is which, the 4 pin is the small ( like min usb port : same as on your camcorder ) and the six pin is the 5 sided bigger one It is bigger than a standard USB and as stated earlier Ive been blissfully unaware on any sex description for either up till now