The XM2 was a cut above most of the current consumer offerrings IMHO
Whist your non tape requirement is noted
None of the models there is likely to tick any of those other boxes
You essentially need a Prosumer or semi Pro model and I would suggest the Canon XH A1 but it does use tape , The non tape models : Sony XDCAM series os
THIS Panasonic which wil set you back a few thousand pounds
You would be spending a bit more too get XM2 performance,
Other wise
all the models are very decent
consumer models which are non tape high def , and may well be fine but you may need to keep your expectations realistic.
I like the Panasonic HDC-TM300 but
Low light indoors performance will be one to be watch( for gigs ect).