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Originally Posted by Kebabhead  This is what I don't like because it's using a child a leveridge
If I were to be in a relationship with a partner whose children weren't mine then I would be expected to be on an equal footing |
That wouldn't (shouldn't) happen though. A parent who gets into a new relationship is a parent first, they have responsibilities towards their children.
See it that way, if you had children (maybe you have) and then got a new partner, would you suddenly put your children "to the side" to make way for the new partner?
I'm not saying that the new partner is bottom of the pile, I'd expect the new partner to act as a parent sharing responsibilities as well as the good side of having children. And I'd treat the new partner in the same way as if he was the children's biological parent. That is if he acts that way.
If the relationship is one where everything is separate except the house you live in and the bed your share, with his and hers of everything, then the children are "my responsibility" and I get to decide alone what happens with them because I'm the only parent in the house.